It's not that I can't make up my own mind, it's just that I need a wall to bounce my thoughts off of and I figure talking with more than one person would be a big help in weighing out the pros and cons.
Basically, I only "came out" as being trans to everyone last year. I tried wearing "drag" a few times and felt more comfortable than EVER. Lately I've been debating about changing my wardrobe completely to include only "masculine wear" so I can go on to pass constantly as my gender. It's not that I feel I need to follow a stigma to be counted as my gender, it's just that I feel most comfortable in stereotypical "mens" clothes. I don't want to perpetuate stereotypes, but I can't deny the fact that I feel most comfortable as a man in stereotypical mens clothing, not as a man in stereotypical womens clothing. Then comes the issue that l don't want to disappoint anyone. I want to be authentic to myself, but I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable, and being authentic makes my roommate complain because he likes my female body and wants to be able to see it &stuff. We're friends and I don't want to upset him, but I don't want to have to be something I'm not. I know what I want to do and it's easy for me to say "well fuck them and do as you want" to everyone and to myself in every other situation, but for some reason this is different. I guess I just don't want to close any doors. As weird as that may sound. Advice?
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Do what you want to do. :) Don't let society, or other people's opinions chose for you. I'm female, and I identify as female, however I frequently shop in the men's section for clothes because I like a lot of the things they have. I wear men's shoes, men's sweaters, sometimes even men's shirts, because they have interesting designs that I sometimes enjoy more than the girly stuff in the woman's section, haha.
If it's something you want to do, and feel comfortable with doing, then do it. If the rest of the world has a problem with it, who cares? As long as you're comfortable in your own skin, then do that which makes you comfortable, and fuck the rest of the world. :D3