Okay I know this sounds like a completely shallow question, but my lack of being pretty REALLY gets to me. My mom took me out the other day to buy a new dress because I have this formal I need to go too. We ended up finding one, but I left the experience crying because I hate my body. I think my face is so ugly. I can't even stand mirrors.
I mean I'm not obese, but I hate my body so much it just makes me want to give up. I know I should take my ass to the gym, but I feel like it wouldn't help. I have a athletic build, and it is anything but feminine. People make jokes about how I could be a body builder . . etc. I laugh it off, but I hate myself so much. I want to improve myself and have a body I'm proud of, but I don't think it's possible with my overall build. I know this is really shallow, but it gets too me so bad. Like I won't date or even go out because I hate the way I look so much.
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First things first. Forget the gym and find yourself a great set of girlfriends. Find a wonderful support system. This sounds like a large problem for you, so I'd suggest counseling. It's not what everyone thinks it will be like. They let you vent all your frustrations, then they break up the issues you have, and have you work on them 1 by one, giving you "homework". It's brilliant. Not creepy at all. I promise.
Also, chances are you're not wearing clothing that's flattering. I feel so gross when I go out in a sweatshirt and baggy pants (even though it's comfortable). Find some quality clothes that show off your assets. No matter how big or small, everyone has 1 body part that looks nice. Showcase that 1 item. A nice long pair of jeans with some slenderizing heels to show off that bottom. A pencil skirt to showcase those legs. A slimming v-neck top to show off some cleavage or clavicle. If you're wearing properly fitting clothes, you'll feel better!
Take a look at how you do your makeup? Is it natural? There's HUNDREDS of books out there on how to naturally increase what the good Lord gave you. I love Bobbi Brown and Carmindy's books... it's all about making yourself up naturally- to give you a natural flush and make you feel more comfortable in your own skin. Also, what does your hair say about you? These little changes will make a WORLD of difference both to your looks and your feelings about yourself.
Life can be unfair in the genetics department, but you have to learn to love your body. I know it's a struggle for me. I suffer from acne, and struggle with my weight. Every day I wake up and have to deal with it. But I decided to be positive- and now I'm training for a 1/2 marathon. It's all mental. You can do this! :)4