I developed stretch marks as an overweight kid and then got into great shape after high school. But the stretch marks did not go away and some flab remained no matter how much I exercised. I didn't think this would be a major problem for guys, but the two guys I dated in college both dumped me once they had seen me naked (THE morning after!).
This did not make me feel good and I stopped dating. The thing is, I am now 31 and I feel like this situation is getting out of hand. My friends rented "The 40 Year-Old Virgin" last weekend, and I was not laughing.
I like men and they seem to like me before they see me naked, but I just know that my stretch marks and flab will be a major problem for most men. There is nothing I can do to make the stretch marks go away. All the magazines and agony aunts out there tell people like me that a man who really appreciates me won't care about my body, but I really doubt that this is true. I would rather be single forever than have another horrible experience where a guy dumps me after seeing my body.
My question is, is there any way to warn a guy about my problem early on (pre-nakedness)? Also, are the agony aunts even a little bit right? Are there guys out there who could overlook this kind of problem?
Thanks for your advice!
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How quickly are you giving it up? I mean, the first few dates or are you holding back a bit to let them feel more attached before you get naked with them?
A decent guy should have no problem with some extra weight or stretch marks. It's hard enough to find someone you freaking like, let alone throwing them away because of something so trivial.
A lot of guys, especially in college, just want to get laid. Maybe the guys you had in college were really just one night standers.
There should be no need to 'warn' a guy about your so-called "problem." It doesn't really exist anyway. Hold back a while and make sure these are decent guys before laying down.
I'm not calling you a slut or anything, just that some guys like to hit-it and run.2