I have a decent (?) sized chest (36DD), and am a S/M size in my panties, so it's very difficult to find sets that fit my body (if the bra fits, the panties are too large, and vice versa). So, basically, I was wondering how actually important are matching sets to another person. And, if they are, since it's so difficult to find sets that fit me, is it ok to have say a black bra with different colored panties or is it better for the panties to be say black and the bra to be different colors? Or, does it just not matter in all honesty? And, if you're being intimate with a person, what is the best material and type to actually wear?
matching means very little, especially if you have 36DD and a small waist. Black bra goes with pretty much anything and the bra matters the most visually. If you have a great body (sounds like you do) then a guy seeing you in bra/panties is all he cares about, not if they match :)
It's not important for the two to match. The only time it's good for them to match is when you're in lingerie doing some kind of dance or something. Know what I mean? Other than that I don't think matching bras and panties matter.
The stores I use to buy underwear sell it separately. I can buy one size bra and other size panties. I've never been to a store that sells sets with defined sizes. Anyway, black panties with coloured bra sounds better.