yes, you definitly can overcome the urge to look.i can anyway.i do it all the time, when I'm with my husband, it's called respect, and giving a sh*t when you don't have to.i perfer to do everything I can to keep my loved ones comfortable though, I'm just sweet like that.
um I don't know I look at guys if I find them attractive., its not like I have this strong urge to look I just automatically do. No reason to try and overcome it, just don't look in a pervy way looking up and down, the lip licking ew
We as people always have the "urge" as you put it to look at other people even on the street. What matters is what you do with that urge. You can overcome it for sure but it really is just being part of being human.