I'm in a great relationship, but now and then I'll look up an ex to see what he's up to. I look up exes I was with for a long time somewhat frequently, and some other short term exes every now and then.
Is that weird? Do any of you all do that? I don't think I have any romantic feelings toward any of them, and I love my boyfriend...I just want to see what their up to.
Interesting results with both guys and girls split in responses. I wonder how it depends on the length of the relationship.
For instance, there are some exes I never really look at because the relationship was brief and I didn't care that much about them. However, others that I was with a few years, or actually loved, I find I'm more curious to look up.
I voted "once a week or more," but only on a technicality!
Most of my favorite exes (the ones I still get along with) and some of the not-favorite ones are Facebook friends, Twitter followers, etc. So, whenever any of them posts something, I see it automatically.
I usually don't actively look them up once a week - just whenever they post something interesting or a major life change like moving to a new city. Like you, I do this even if I'm not interested in getting back together.
I don't need or want to know where they are day-to-day, who they're hanging out with, what their favorite places are, or anything like that. I suppose I just like knowing they're alive and what big things they're up to: jobs, big creative projects, travel abroad, etc. And I admit, I'm curious whether they're "In A Relationship" or engaged or married, even though I probably shouldn't be.
If I was the one who ended the relationship, it means I no longer care about that person. But even then, over the course of a year, I still wonder about them at least once.
Relationships do play a large role in your life and it is natural to be curious from time to time... Which makes me wonder about all those "never" votes. I can understand freak circumstances, but come on... never checking on your ex is straight bitterness.
I don't think there's an appropriate answer for me here. I tend to check in on exes and old friends (most of my exes ARE old friends) once a quarter or so. It's important to maintain the sense of friendship and a personal connection with the individual.
Annual contact is what I chose... but contact that infrequent wouldn't be much of a friendship IMHO.
I know my girlfriend looks up her exes to see what they're up to, but she's a lot more lurky about it. It's more a self esteem boost for her... knowing she's come further and is in a better spot in life than they are. I don't think that's fair... but I'm not going to stop her.