This is for the older, more experienced crowd, please
The situation: What genuinely makes me happy and makes my life worth living doesn’t have the same meaning to my SO. I love to be outdoors, doing anything fun and adventurous, trying new things, going places…just a general love of nature and fully experiencing this life that I’ve been given. Doing anything and everything and really connecting with myself through nature is what makes life worth living for me. My SO doesn’t feel the same way and I can’t ever get him fired up to do much...I mean we both love the beach, to snowboard, and play paintball, but on a daily basis there isn’t an activity that we have a common love for. I love him more than anything, but I’ve broken up with him because I couldn’t see myself with someone I can’t share the experiences that make me truly happy with. He doesn’t feel the same way. So I’m wondering if I’m alone in my thinking. Would/could you be with someone that didn’t share whatever your passion is? I just feel there is a deeper connection lacking when we can’t share what makes me truly happy. He loves to see me happy, but he doesn’t share it, you know. Am I looking for too much in a SO? I would marry him other wise. and with my question I don't really mean "too much" because this is the way it has to be for me, but I wanna know if it's more than other people look for.
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that comes off as not just a bit, but very selfish.
that's like a guy breaking up with me, because I don't have my black-belt in daito-ryu aikijujutsu and don't have much of an interest in learning it, understanding it, or practicing with him.
would I be a bad girlfriend if everything else was perfect about me, and I encouranged and supported him for going ahead with his passion, and never told him to stop or spend less time on it and more time with me, and was happy to see him happy doing the thing he loved?
what would be your feelings about a guy (let's pretend he's my boyfriend) who would suddenly break up with me one day because in addition to being the otherwise perfect girlfriend and super-rare one-in-a-million genuinely caring, loving and warm person; I just wasn't as passionate as he was about daito-ryu aikijujutsu.
exactly, that's what you come off as. think about it.2