I'm going to a dinner gala/fundraiser type of thing on Saturday night with my parents and my husband. It's a formal event so I'll be wearing a nice dress that's just below my knees. However, I'm wondering if I should also wear high heels with that or if I should just stick to flats. The shoes I have look very similar to the ones pictured below, but I don't want to appear imposing or intimidating to all the new people I'm going to meet.
I'm already tall at 6'1" and these shoes add about 4 inches to that, maybe 5. The only people I normally see wearing shoes like this are women who are significantly shorter than me. If I already have the height, is it okay for me to wear these?
I don't dress up like this all the time and I rarely ever wear heels.
Thanks everyone! I wore the heels with no problems or awkwardness at all 😊 👠
yes, of course! I'm 5'10 so know where you're coming from. I didn't wear heels till around the end of my clubbing days. Hell, I didn't even own a pair till then. Eventually it got to me that in all the group photos, despite being the tallest out of all my friends, I'd always look the worst in terms of legs, looking leaner, etc.. Being tall, we should be the winners at that by default, but all these 5'0 friends were taking the cake.
Wear heels! No reason you should slink into the background just because of some silly social norms. The few times I did wear them, I got only positive attention. 'Glamazon', 'amazing legs', etc.. You don't need to wear them regularly but might as well embrace what you've already got. Short girls look better in heels, tall girls moreso because we've already got that initial height/long leg advantage. :P
Of course it is okay for you to wear those. I dated a girl that was 6'5'' I am 6'4'' and she was nervous about wearing heels around me. I encouraged it when we were in public everyone was commenting at how we made them feel so short but she looked absolutely amazing. I think you should wear those heels and own how great you'd look at the gala.
That'll be another vote for yes then... DO IT!! :) It's not about the height, it's about what they do for your overall look, your legs, the way you carry yourself, heels are life-transforming! Okay that's a slight exaggeration, but seriously, wear them and be proud! Flats and evening wear are not a winning combo, go big or go home I say. :)
Those are really pretty jimmy choo's. And pretty girls deserve to be in pretty shoes. I'm sure you're husband will be stunned by your beauty upon wearing that.= most especially that you rarely do this.
Yes, some people will get intimidated, but you can't chop your legs for them! Just be yourself. I'm sure it will be a surprising sight for them as well.
If you feel good about it and your husband thinks you look good wearing them and he feels comfortable, then there's no other reason to not wear them.
Personally, I don't like when she's taller than me already. I'm only 5'7" so, unfortunately, I wouldn't date you, but you already have a boyfriend anyway, so, it doesn't matter. I prefer her to be taller than me, only when she wears her heels. So, I'd like her to be under 5'7" but wear relatively tall heels
It's okay for you to wear whatever you want. If you want the heels, wear them. Honestly, I've never really found heels attractive, to be honest. However, if you feel comfortable in them (or confident, I should say as I'm sure they're painful to wear), then wear them.
Nothing wrong with heels even if you're tall, You should wear what you like. You'll certainly get noticed but "imposing and intimidating" are really about personality and unless you have that kind of personality people really shouldn't have a problem.
I don't really know why women wear high heels. I used to think it was to make you look taller, but then I later found out (according to one of my professors) that it was an attractiveness thing. High heels make you look more vulnerable. Anyway, they are not that good for your legs I would recommend avoiding them, just don't wear sneakers.
Nothing wrong in wearing them. But others who are short will give you uncomfortable glances which might make you feel uncomfortable. If you can tolerate them , then I'm sure you will carry them off well.
A rule of thumb goes "if YOU need to be there, arrive 5 minutes early. If they need YOU to be there, arrive 5 minutes late." The same concept may apply for you: if they need to impress you (vendors), wear whatever makes you feel happy and sexy. If you need to impress them, evaluate your clothing choices.
You can (and I recommend) having the best of both worlds by wearing heels and packing flats in your clutch to slip into as needed. If you feel that flats would detract from a key impression, stow your heels under the table and bring them out for photos, award acceptances, or anything in which you are distant from prolonged or direct client contact.
Heels add more than height--they make your butt and legs look amazing. Plus they make just about anything look formal and sexy. Who cares if you're a little taller than the people around you? You'll look like a model, and who doesn't want that?
If you love the heels wear them. But maybe practice walking in them and such because you're so used to flats. If people are intimidated by you in heels it's their problem. If it makes you uncomfortable bring the flats in case so you can change if you want. Personally I wish I could wear heels but I'm way too clumsy to walk in them. And I always give props to women who can pull them off regardless of their height.
Wear what you're comfortable in. You're going to tower over people in flats, so that's not the deciding issue. If you like heels and will feel appropriately dressed in them, then by all means wear them.
I'm 6'4" and i've always dreamed of wearing high heels since i 6 years old but i noticed that i was always put down and teased about my height, and the fact that i am talller than average, i don't even bother wearing Hight Heels (yes i did have a chance to wear the high heels) and i loved it but i felt and feel more comfortable when i am flat footed because that already is a connversation starter, and i feel the awesomeness of being oogled because my my height and my husband (who is 5'9'") loves my height and he says it's the perfect height for him and for me
Basically what i am saying that it is not for us to decide but for you decide, also ask yourself if you have flat shoes that go with the dress
I honestly don't think you should, the majority of men are intimidated by women taller than them and find it awkward to talk to them. Especially with your height, you'll look like a giant compared to everyone. Maybe this video will help: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HWf6IcrtcRY
If you don't mind towering over other people they would be fine. Would those people include your husband?
I personally don't care for heels. My height is beside the point (I'm 5'6"), I find heels very uncomfortable. Actually I'm not a big fan of wearing any kind of shoes, & if I had those with an outfit I'd be carrying them.
You are so lucky. I wish I was tall. I'm only 5ft6.5 . Well if your really worried about it then go for flats. Its all about being comfortable and you'll probably end up regretting heels at the end of the night because your feet will hurt so much.