If women just straight up stopped wearing heals I wouldn't complain. Any woman who is pretty in high heels is just as pretty in a pair of comfortable shoes. I'm attracted to women, not their clothes. But even if that wasn't the case, I don't want girls hurting themselves to look good for me.
People are indoctrinated into associating high heels with "feminine posture".
Women are the greatest offenders. They're the ones who are wearing the high heels for that purpose, after all. That's why I'm not sure how to take someone seriously who claims they need a boyfriend to "feel like a woman".
I wear heels almost daily with no complaint, but I understand your feelings. Personally, with me, it' all about the quality of the shoe. I've found that the more expensive shoes fit better and are way more comfortable. The cheaper ones off the rack at your neighborhood retail giant are the ones that seem to cause me the biggest discomfort. I guess you get what you pay for.