So, my boyfriend constantly tells me I'm sexy. When I send him pictures, that's what he tells me. When I dress up, he said it as well. When he talks dirty to me, he tells me how sexy he thinks I am. When were apart, he'll say how he can't wait to see that sexy body again. Now, don't get me wrong, I love it when he calls me sexy. It makes me feel he's attracted to me and likes my body, and what girl wouldn't want to feel that way? I know he's likes my body and is sexually attracted to me by the way he talks to me and how he looks at me and what he doest to me. That's not the problem.
I am madly in love with this guy. We're 19 and we've been together for a year and a half. What I feel for him is so deep, I'd do anything and everything for him. He makes me happy, he cares about me, he's sweet, he's funny, he's smart. He's my other half and I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with him and have a family together. I can't see myself without him.
*****WELL, HERE'S THE THING*****
Girls (and guys as well, I think), we all have those days where we don't feel as pretty. Like you'll wake up and look at yourself and won't feel that same "bamm, I look so good today" feeling. Well, I was feeling that way the other day. I had my period, I had a cold, and I just wasn't feeling pretty at all. So I ask him if he thought I was pretty, to which he responded "yeah, I think you're pretty."
Reading guys' comments on this site has made me realize that to guys the words "sexy, pretty, gorgeous, beautiful" all have different meanings to them. Sexy is the physical. They like your body. Pretty is you're cute. Gorgeous is you have stunning facial features. And beautiful is the whole package. You like their body, their face, and everything else. And when a guy saids you're beautiful, there's a deeper connection there than just the physical. A guy that's in love with a girl would describe her as beautiful, not just pretty.
So, needless to say, I was expecting him to say "no baby, you're beautiful." So his response disappointed me and its made me think that maybe he doesn't really love me and just likes my body.
SOO, am I overreacting? Guys, what do you think? And girls, tell me I'm not completely crazy to be thinking like this LOL
Any advice would be great. Sorry it's so long, but thanks for reading =)
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You're totally trippin. Pretty, beautiful, sexy, whatever, they're all generally the same and let's say they weren't. Why couldn't you be pretty AND beautiful AND sexy AND gorgeous all at once? Of course you can be. Just cause he said you were pretty doesn't mean he doesn't think your beautiful or whatever and frankly? In most dudes minds those are generally the same thing. There's no "set" definition of any one of those terms, they're all malleable. You just got done saying how sexy he always says you are and how you know he finds you insanely attractive. Think about it. I'd bet that those days "you don't feel as pretty", he doesn't even notice because he STILL thinks you're incredibly hot. Stop making mountains out of pebbles and chill.
Besides of course he used the term "pretty", you ASKED him if he thought you were pretty and he said yes. Like I just finished saying, you can be pretty AND beautiful at the same time, (mostly because they mean the exact same thing), therefore you are tripping. A guy that's in love with a girl wouldn't ALWAYS use the term beautiful. He loves you and you're totally crapping on him by coming up with these insane assumptions. That's really not fair to the poor guy, he's obviously trying his best. FFS, you're freaking out over a dude's word choice in response to a hella random question you pulled out of no where.
Frankly, I feel sorry for him. I am really, really, not trying to be mean but frankly, your attitude is kinda upsetting. He obviously cares and loves about you considering how you originally described him. Yet here you are, completely calling him a liar because he didn't say, "no you're not pretty, you're beautiful" and now you're disappointed? How unfair and insane. I'm sorry girl, but you need to really get your priorities straight. Because by being down and all upset about this, you are hurting this guy who loves you. This guy who hasn't done anything wrong what so ever and really cares about you, but here you are trying to crucify the poor bloke because his words didn't "feel" good enough for you. How selfish.
It's simple. If you continue acting crazy and making outrageous assumptions, YOU obviously don't deserve this guy and I hope he realizes how selfish you are and dumps you. If you pull the Volkswagen out of your bum and start treating him with the same respect and benefit of a doubt he shows you, you might be able to forge something really special that will last a life time. Your choice girl. Ruin the best thing you got going for you over nothing with your own craziness or build a better future by using some gosh dang sense. Merry Christmas.3