OK my girlfriend thinks I'm over reacting because I love her natural hair color (blond) and I don't want her to change it. She said because she loves me so much shell respect my wishes and won't do it but then like a day later she's right back on it even though she promises she wont. We've fought bout it like 4 times now.. She keeps lying saying she won't do it again but she always ends up trying again.. I don't know am I over reacting? Am I supposed to just let her do what she wants? Even though I don't like it? Because something she really likes to tell me is. "I thought you loved me for me not your hair color" but when I think about it she has blond hair and I love that part of her not what she's trying to change into.. Am I wrong? Please help me I'm confused..
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i think she should stop promising to do/not do something, when she knows she won't keep the promise. she's obviously just saying to get out of a fight.
that being said, I've never let a boyfriend tell me how I should dress, look, dye my hair, or anything like that. I think it's great that you love her natural hair color, but it is her hair and she can wear it/dye it any way she wants. she is not changing herself as a person, she's doing something she likes doing. does she tell you what kinds of clothes to wear, how to do your hair, etc? would you like that? you might not mind perhaps, some guys don't mind their gfs picking out a shirt or something, but clearly she minds the hair thing.
overall I think arguing about hair color is dumb. unless she dyes it like neon green and pink or something, in which case I'd be annoyed. but I see you're in high school, and well, high school kids have dumb tastes sometimes. I've never done those colors (actually, I've never dyed my hair to begin with), but every single friend I've had that's done those sorts of things has looked back and been like wtf was I thinking? how could anyone think this is cool/attractive? so it's a phase that jsut needs to be grown out of.
if she just dyes it regular colors, well, once again it is her hair, and it's one thing to tell her you love her natural hair, it's another to insist she not dye it. I don't agree with that. I also think, like I said before, that it's wrong of her to break promises, even about things as trivial as hair dying.
overall, I think you two should just stop discussing this topic. fighting over hair color... does it not sound silly, honestly?0
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