I have a friend who I'll name Jessica. I have a lot of parties at my house and she comes to them, she also hangs out with me at my house when I only have a couple of friends over. She's one of my good friend's cousin (who I'll name Jack). A couple of months ago I had this thing wit this guy who I'll name Tony. Well I really liked Tony but he pretty much blew me off. I've hooked up with him before, and I'm fine with doing that. Well one night I had a get together at my house and me and Tony ended up hooking up. He was leaving and giving some people a ride home (including Jessica). Before they left me and Jessica were outside talking about Tony and this other guy (who she had sex with earlier that night). I told her how much I liked Tony but Tony's good friends with Jack so she pretty much already knew the story. So a couple of nights later, Tony comes over to my house to hang out with me and then tells me that she gave him head after he took her home and that she wanted to go to his house but he didn't want her to so he said no. That p*ssed me off because she did that right after I got done telling her how much I liked Tony. So me and Tony are done with but we're friends still and now whenever she comes over to my house she bugs me to text him to come over because she knows he won't come over if she asks him. I ignore it and don't invite him over because I know that he tries to avoid her. Well I had a big party for my birthday where I got too drunk and ended up passing out upstairs for the night while my good friends were downstairs. During this time she hooked up with a guy who I use to talk to before I talked to Tony (I'll name him Justin). Well me and Justin use to talk and hook up, and we still do sometimes. Justin comes over to my house a couple of days later and also tells me how Jessica hooked up with him at my house, at my birthday party, while I was passed out upstairs. Justin and Tony are (well were) my two guys that I have a history with and do hook up with from time to time (having safe sex of course). After I heard about her hooking up with them as well I pretty much stopped hooking up with them because the thought of her being with them as well is repulsing to me.
Do I have a right to be mad at her though? I know there's some sort of "girl code" and she definitely broke it right? The thing is that she acts like she's one of my girls but did this and hasn't even admitted to it or came up to me and told me. I feel disrespected and don't want to invite her to any of my social events at my house but I want to make sure I'm not overreacting.
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I hear what you are saying about 'girls having needs'. :)
-People seem to be unable to get the fact that you did not ask them to critique your behavior , or predict your future. -Just wether or not to trust the girl.. You can have sex, without being 'bad' just be safe. that's it. The reason & the people are up to you, as long as you don't harm anyone.^
As for the girl. Just don;t trust her. It does not help to be mad at her, cause she seems kind of sociopathic anyways.. I don't think you will penetrate her idiocy, any more then earn her respect.
I do not think you should put any energy into protecting the reason that you do not want to put faith in her. Don't spread rumors, but don;'t spare her feelings by not telling her - She may be interested to know , that some find her behavior offensive - maybe no.
- Don't take it to heat if people say you're 'whatever they say'. - Ha, ha..
-People can be so judgmental, & it's not like this site is not about sex or any thing.. :-)
Good luck & be safe!2