Well, I personally have problems where I can't wear anything too flashy becasue I'd feel like everyone's staring at me. I get really uncomfortable and get the urge to hide under a table or something haha (plus, if I did wear something flashy, everyone I know WOULD be staring at me because they'd be surprised lol). I never wear makeup (only once as a brides maid and I looked the same hah), I have a very large bust for an Asian girl (korean), and I'm super short and chubby-ish? Squishy? I'm not over-weight but definitely not skinny. Anyways, because of these things I try to cover myself up with long baggy sweaters and t-shirts while wearing leggings underneath, toping it all off with a long jacket in winter. I'm sure I still look girly because I like diamond earings, necklaces, etc... and I have a baby face, long wavy hair, and thin bangs, but I doubt that I ever come off as sexy or hot nor can I imagine myself ever going out in a tank top and a miniskirt. So, my mom said that if I dressed more like someone my age instead of an old lady and made more friends (because I'm an introvert in front of strangers [unless I am hyper on sugar lol]), then I would easily find a boyfriend which I have.. never.. had... o__o You could say this is just a matter of whether you like hot girls or cute girls. I'm probably more of a cute girl based on looks because of my shortness but personality wise, I'd say I'm neither because I am actually very serious and mature (atleast from a strangers point of view).
So my question is, would guys still be attracted to a girl like this? I don't really want to change my appearance to get a boyfriend but I don't want to look like I don't care about my looks or that I don't take care of myself. When it really comes down to it, I dont want to change anything about myslef so that when a guy does end up liking me, it would be just me and nothing else, but what do you guys think? Does it even matter? lol
Most Helpful Guy
I'd say it's really smart at least once into a relationship (a slightly more sexy and revealing outfit might be better earlier if you're trying to entice him).
The more you kind of hide your body from your boyfriend, the more pleasing it can be to undress you.
My wife is kind of opposite. We shower together. I got used to her body very quickly, and then a lot of the excitement of undressing her just went away. I've seen her naked like so many times now, can visualize every inch of her body clearly in my head.
Girlfriends in the past who were more conservative and wouldn't even let me see them in a shower naked turned me into a total perv, like I was trying to peek under the towels after they covered themselves up (I just wanted to see them naked so badly). Those types often wouldn't even let me see them when they got out of bed until they put on their make-up. And while that drove me crazy, it helped me stay kind of overcome with desire for a longer duration in the relationship.2
Most Helpful Girl
if a guy can't respect that, he ain't worth it. period.0