everyone knows that they would rather go for the hotter girl first, but don't because she will probably reject them. then they end up settling for us and treat us like crap.
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You say you wouldn't use a guy just for money but you obviously put that up near the top of your list. When you make things like gifts and wine and dine your priorities, you're saying "BUY ME" or "I"M PROPERTY". When you get what you asked for and are treated like a consumable object, you have no room to complain. If you want a guy to make an effort on other areas you need to show you can take care of yourself financially and that you value other things about a relationship first and foremost. From your text you sound like a high maintenance shallow girl that parades herself around as a trophy. You probably have an unpleasant personality that drives guys away when they think to themselves "THIS ISN'T WORTH IT" or you get guys that think you are hot enough to stick around long enough to sleep with you a few times and then they've had enough of your crap and bail. Look at yourself and think about how you treat people, how you see the world, and how you present yourself. You'll find you usually get what you ask for.
For me its about 10% looks (enough for me to say hmm she's cute, I wounder what's she's about) an 90% personality. I'm a good looking guy that gets every woman in the grocery line side glancing me, all the girls in the room staring at me, etc. and I've had enough of girls like you. The personality is where its at.0