I'm incredibly self conscious, and it's been literally 3 years since I've worn a swim suit out in public. I usually stay home when the family tells me they're going to swim because I know I'm too worried about my INCREDIBLY pale, fat thighs, belly, and arms to actually enjoy myself. I've even sat in jeans and a t shirt in the Kentucky sun because my aunt dragged me along to a water park with her. I know it's ridiculous of me, but I'm a teenage girl. I'm sensitive. I'm a wimp. And I know for a fact that people are judging me, no matter how much everyone else wants to say that they won't. That's a lie, and I know it, so don't just ay that I can wear whatever I want to. I need a bathing suit that'll make me feel less uncomfortable with showing my legs, arms, and the size of my belly. Any suggestions? (Post a link if possible)
Also, I'm not the good kind of overweight where I'm just bigger. I have rolls in just about every place they can be seen, and I have no boobs. I have lumps and bumps and curves in all of the WRONG places, so please no bikinis!
Honestly you're fine in terms of judging. It's only the donkeys who'll actually start crap about it. I'd suggest a rash guard and bike shorts/athletic shorts for a swimsuit. A rash guard is essentially a t-shirt or 3/4 sleeve top that feels like a swimsuit. Athletic shorts typically accompany it so if you want you can tuck the ends into the waistband. You can get a good quality cheep pair from old navy. But honestly you'll be fine if you wear anything else. Don't let insecurities control your life. Hope this helps
Here's a question for you..,... why are you worried about what people think about you? Go get a swimsuit that you feel comfortable in. Then rock that shit!! Be comfortable being you and being in your body. If they don't like it, fuck them. You're not there to impress them. You're at the beach/ water park to have fun!
There is no shame in being insecure. As a fellow plus-sized woman, it's never easy to put yourself out there. Especially during the summer. We see so many images of what society says we are supposed to look like, and everyone seems to be getting ready for bikini season. It can all feel a bit isolating for us plus size gals.
As a teen, I had to wear tankinis and one pieces while my friends rocked cute bikinis. The tankinis available to me in my teenage years were styled for people who were much older. No cute designs or colours.
The wonderful thing about now is that there are SO MANY OPTIONS! :D
I'm not sure what size you are, but I'm a size 18 and I have to wear a 24 on this site. But the bathing suits are pretty good quality. Though they aren't cheap.
Another great place is forever 21. Cute designs and colours for plus size women! I also recommend Lane bryant as well. Monif c is also amazing, but they are very expensive!
The best option is to go to a store that caters to plus size people. That is where you will feel most comfortable. It sucks going to a store where the plus size bathing suits are hidden at the back of the store, and no staff are educated on sizing for plus size people.
The best thing to do is try on a bunch of different styles. Find one that you are comfortable wearing and that makes you feel good!
I just recently purchased 2 bikinis this year! I am planning on rocking them at the beach. Will some people not like it? Possibly. But I don't live my life for them, and neither should you!
I am 26 and I spent a lot of my life feeling self-conscious about my body and hiding. I didn't swim for several years (even though I love the water) because I was self-conscious. I was so worried that someone was going to criticize me for wanting to swim as a plus size lady! But you know what, in all the times I've been at the beach, no one has said anything to me!
Don't just go with the bathing suit that hides you. Go with one you actually like! :)
My other advice is if you feel too pale, get a spray tan. That might also help boost your confidence!
High waisted bikinis look cute on plus sized girls, it brings out the curves (in a flattering way) and it's kinda trendy. Avoid horizontal stripes and opt for darker colours. Horizontal stripes make you look wider and darker colours will help give a slimmer illusion. If you don't want to wear a bikini you can always wear a full swim suit. Just avoid anything that will dig into your skin or look too tight, you want to be comfortable with what you're wearing. One last thing, people will only judge you if you let them. If you show you're confident and comfortable with your body, no one can get to you or hurt your feelings. ;) x
High waisted swimming costumes are good, I think. Generally, they're just really cute, but they'll also help detract some of the attention from your stomach. One piece swimsuits are good too. Honestly, just wear something that you like, don't bother with checking if the style is flattering or not. If you try something on and you feel happy in it, then you should wear it. But here's some stuff about plus size swimming costumes:
There's no easy way to get over this body confidence but it's a journey that will happen as you get older. You honestly need to put some effort into loving yourself and seeing the positives but i also understand that this is extremely difficult especially if you already have a negative mindset. But hopefully one day you will just not give a shit anymore and will feel beautiful in anything.
If you feel this way, why not change? Why not either lose weight to be happy, or embrace the body. (I don't know how heavy you think is plus-sized either, so I can't really tell you anything other than these.)
And I'd say a one piece with boy shorts might make you feel more comfortable.