I'm not really attracted to my boyfriend. We have been together for about 3 months and I'm realizing I'm not always attracted to him, Sometimes but other times I'm not. A lot of my friends tell me that I can do better, looks wise because I'm a pretty girl, but looks aren't everything I suppose...but I'm just wondering do you think in the long run having a boyfriend I'm not attracted to, could be a downfall for our relationship?
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Well first off… I’m glad your not leading your boyfriend on. The first thing you need to do, is to talk to him about how your feeling, express what‘s going on rather than leading him on, because in that aspect it‘s going to have a downfall within itself.
I was recently thinking about attraction, and that attraction can lead to a break-ups, because of curtain areas in which things are lacking. One in particular is the sexual attraction we get from others. And I’d hate to say this, but looks are a visual attraction, and if that visual attraction isn’t bringing you to that state of sexual attraction, then things need to change. But of course as I agree with you 100%… Looks aren’t everything, and what attraction is, is based on other variables rather than the visual attraction. Like for example, some people love characteristics in which the person has a great sense of humor, and has a lot of charisma, charm, and who that person is, rather than what he looks like. So in a sense it can be a sexual attraction within itself, and maybe the guy you’ve been dating has lost some of that charm as it were. You need to find out what that loss of attraction is, and maybe things could change in a better direction, but the first thing you need to do, is to talk to him, and talk about what you’ve been feeling these past months, what ever the time frame is. But things need to change in that direction in which it was before, or maybe it’s not the guy for you.
Anyway I hope things work out for the best…. Much Love0