This is actually quite a hard question - I would say, if a girl came up and asked me, "Pick the one that makes you feel the most confident, and stick to it.". I'm not really that guy that goes after looks foremost (and I rather look within a girl rather than the opposite). And besides, both look good in my opinion :)
Whatever you like. As long as there isn't to much product in it and I can still run my hands through it. I love the smell more than anything. Don't come at me with your hair smellin like scalp. I don't want to wonder if you don't bother showering for me.