I am a 21 year old male, am caring, cute looking etc. Girls check me out when I'm in a bar or club, but every time I try to go up to a women, I get shot down. I am intelligent, can be funny (but that is not my forte). I don't get it.
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Just from your first sentence I can already see that you think that women is attracted to a guy in the same way you are attracted to a girl.
When you look at a girl, you will judge her by her looks, breast size, etc. and honestly right now you are probably saying "no way I like character, intelligence. blah blah" and you may truly do and I applaud you for it. But it's ok to admit it, we as men are hard wired for that type of thinking.
The problem is that you probably think women are like that too! Sure women will react better to a good looking guy but the only thing that gives you is to approach them easier, or get noticed easier by girls.
To get more insite on what to do, read the book "The Game" by neil strauss. Also read up on the net and join the PUA community. Here's a link to get you started. link2