Been out about 4 times with a guy where we met online and have been talking for awhile prior to going out (still chat during the week as well). He made first two dates, I have made all the rest. We have good conversation and fun on dates, and the chemistry between us seems good - kissing him is definitely fun, but he seems shy...I usually have to make the first move, then he seems to know it's okay and will reciprocate or take things a little further, but how can I get him to make a move first or to schedule a date without me doing something first? I think his history with relationships isn't good (trust issues with girls dropping him), so my thought is maybe he needs time and I just need to be patient...
In the same vein, I don't want to end up in the "friend" category, but I don't want to feel like I'm chasing him...should I continue with what I'm doing? (i.e. continue offering affection - which he accepts with no problem, making dates) and hope eventually he will realize I'm not the same as the other girls, or am I deluding myself?
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Accept him the way he is. If your arranging dates and kissing him you won't be ending up in the "friend" category. If you want someone to be chasing you, keep looking and see if he does. In my opinion, its over rated to be chased. Much rather have someone loyal and loving that needs a bit of a push to get going.
First of all, does this guy fancy you? has he shown signs or said things to suggest he does? If he doesn't you are ALREADY in the friend category and your kissing him is like saying "with benifits".
Guys can be shy. How does he act around other women? if he is perfectly happy to kiss or ask out other girls run a mile.0