Okay I've been on here and took the advice for what you guys say the average guys likes, thinks, and all that jazz but I think you're all wrong.
Okay in two situations I tried this being the aggressor thing out.
I mean initiated convo with guys that seemed interested in me, confirmed they were interested, actually said they want to talk to me when I straight out asked them, had some nice laughs and good convo, and I flirted more obviously but guess what how is it they both stopped talking to me and went out and chased other girls?
We talked for months and all that. So I'm not taking that "maybe he's shy...maybe he's seeing mixed signals/don't want to be hurt" stuff.
I think you guys are fibbing. You would rather chase girls and play games then have one be upfront and honest with being interested.
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Kudos to you for at least making an effort.
I think the advice you are getting from men who suggest being the aggressor are the men who have problems with initiating with women. And I think the guys you are going after are not guys like that - therefore they have a different idea of the mating game.
I agree with Gregs - it's going to be hit and miss depending on the person, as it is with a man chasing a woman. Some guys are going to be more traditional while others will welcome the change of pace - unfortunately it isn't something you can tell right off the bat.
I honestly think that men who run from women who go after what they want are confused - change is hard to take and they may feel uncomfortable with something they don't consider normal.
The only advice I can give you is to stick with what's comfortable with you. Personally, I wouldn't want to be with a man who was afraid to be with an aggressive woman, mostly because I'm not only aggressive romantically. We wouldn't fit emotionally or mentally. I have to have a guy whose okay with my personality. Guys like the ones you've encountered aren't attractive to me. For you, it may be something you can understand - knowing how rigid some traditions are and how unthinkingly men follow that just because "it's the way it's done".
Good luck - I hope you figure it out.3