I've been dating this guy for a few months and he's taking me to his home to meet his family. It's going to be an outdoors cookout so I know it'll be hot but I don't want to dress too revealing. Oh and should I bring something to the dinner or give his mom a gift? I'm so confused!
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Good for you!
Just wear slacks, jeans or other plus a nice but not too daring top. Arrange your hair nicely and be yourself. Be perfectly natural and do not keep thinking that you are "On show." Remember, his parents will be anxious to make a good impression on you although his mother may think she is meeting a rival for her son's love so be aware of this possibility.
Compliments are always a good thing so do not be afraid to tell them how nice the garden is and how beautifully they have prepared the cookout. Tell them it must have been a lot of work etc. but do not overdo the compliments. Ask polite questions about them, the locality, their interests, friends, likings etc. but let them do the talking as well.
As for presents, flowers or chocolates are always a good bet for mothers. A bottle of wine for the man will always go down well, in both senses!
The best wine to take for outdoors is white or rose well chilled. If you suspect the man is a wine lover, go to a wine merchant or get some advice on a good quality easy drinking wine at about £8 a bottle if in the UK.
If you are unsure about his parents, ask your boyfriend a bit about them. For example, does his dad like lager/ wine etc. or is he teetotal.
Finally, just go and enjoy yourself but avoid being led into a corner for snogging, no matter how hard he tries. I can assure you his parents will not like seeing you snog and will blame you afterward saying you are too pushy. Keep in with the crowd although make sure you stay near him or at least with his mum and dad. One final thing, when the party begins to break up, make a move to be going home and only stay another half hour or so if his parents ask you to, not if he asks you to. You will in any case find that the leaving takes at least half an hour!
And, yes, finally, finally, do not forget to thank his parents and compliment them on the lovely time you have had. I must apologize for telling you what you may already know but I am trying to help you have a lovely time.0