Okay, I'm not talking about doing it in the park or on a plane bullshit. I'm talking about threesomes, watching two girls, or just having a very promiscuous life style. My husband's always joking about doing threesomes or wanting me to do a chick, or even seeing me with other guys, two at a time even. The other day he was talking to a friend at his work, with me there, and they started joking about how the guy works at USI and how he's around all those college girls, how he must go home to his wife and "bang" her after all that. Then my husband turns to me and said "hey babe, can I go work at a college", I basically blew him off and said "yeah, but you'll be single", he laughed and then said something like "yea best of both worlds". Now ya'll know from my last question, I don't have much self esteem, but should I be worried about him talking about his little fantasies too much? Or is it just guys being macho or something?
Okay I forget a couple things, my husband is considerably older than me, he's been married before and it was miserable, he's probably only really been with like 3 or 4 women his whole life (sexually) if that many, he's really a loyal guy,(to be continued)
we have a great sex life, but he just seems to bug me on these things, I don't know if he just likes to get a reaction or what? He says he's venting most guys normal tiffs, I have desires too, but I don't obsess over them like that. It seems he's obsessing
Honestly? He is asking for permission to pursue some sexual variants. Most people initially bring up swinging as a "joke" to see how their partner reacts.
This is not a threat to you or your relationship. I know a lot of guys (including myself) who are happily married and enjoy the occasional threesome, group sex or even watching our partners enjoy the same. Why? because you can be an amazing f*** but try as you might, you can't actually be someone else and many people enjoy some variety in their sexuality. The interesting thing is that we tend to love our wives and stay married while other people wind up blowing their marriage up over the occasional wandering.
Sit down with him and tell him what you want to try sexual. You might find out that the is offering you the opportunity to expand your sexuality and still have a happy marriage. It might also be that he simply enjoys talking about it. Ask and find out.
I'd say this is most likely nothing to worry about. It's simply biology that the male and female brains work differently and he isn't doing anything unexpected here. Although, if it really makes you feel uncomfortable, have a little talk with him about it and let him know your perspective.