Why can't guys be happy with what they got on their arm? why do they feel the need to stare at every girl (basically) that walks by? isn't your girl hot enough? isn't that why you are with her?
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Alright, this is not an easy question to answer. I have been through the wringer, on both sides of this issue. When I met my wife, I loved her. I committed myself to her and, I didn't bother looking at other women, because I had her. Then she left me, less than a month after our wedding, for over a month. When she came back, I wasn't as committed, and I looked at other women as a form of coping mechanism, gaining security from the fact that, if she chose to leave again, there were other options. This lasted almost nine years, until she left me for someone else. Then I grieved a lot of the pain I had taken on, through my marriage, and childhood. That brought relief from this desire to look at every woman.
Now, even though I have had to file for divorce, I am confident that when I meet someone else, and I take her out, I will not only be focused on her, investing in her and proud to be with her, I will also have no need, or reason to desire looking around at anyone else. Grief is the process of expelling pain from our bodies, allowing the tears to irrigate the wounds of our souls so Christ can cleanse them and suture them closed, so they can heal well.1