it seems like no one ever has anything good to say about my appearance. all men do is pick me apart...i used to be so confident, used to model...but now I am nothing more than a steaming pile of self hating garbage. I see really large women or women who are not even remotely attractive and all I hear is "beauty is in the eye of the beholder"...well, then how come a man can not accept that I am not perfect and love me despite my flaws? all I hear is I am not as thin as I used to be, or omg you have a zit, omg you are so pale, omg why don't you do your hair? omg you dress up too much, omg why don't you dress up more? I am never enough for anyone and I don't understand why. I am beautiful on the inside so why can't men understand that sure...i am not PERFECT but that does not make me a bad person? why when I go out to a club wearing something sexy, I can be standing next to someone 2 times my weight and people will point out "oh she shouldn't be wearing that, she's too big/pale/ugly" but do not say anything about others?
i used to think I was so pretty...but now I hate myself. should I give up on love all together or should I keep trying? why does everyone target me when I have so much love to give?
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When people are at the top of their game, others who are not will often bring them down. The people around you criticize you because you are a good looking person. It's even a strategy for pick up artists. Often times, they will attempt to bring down your self-esteem so you're more willing to settle. I must say women have an advantage when it comes to zits. They can cover it up with makeup. As for the uglier women and bigger women, everyone knows their size. There's no use in kicking a downed opponent. These people around you have to drag you down to make themselves feel better. It's the curse for being the best. Don't give up. You'll find a good guy eventually.2