First: Purchase a mild Shampoo (To Clarify hair, I will explain why)
Second: TRIM your hair ends (May 1 1/2 to 2 inches)
Third: Here's the magic part: Mix olive oil, almond oil, coconut oil, avocado oil and a "little" honey, (honey you will have to heat so it can blend). Either leave on ALL day or all night (if all nite, DONT use honey)
Start by using products (shampoo and conditioners) with out SLS, it is a strong detergent in a lot of shampoos if can causing your hair to dry out because it strips the hair of natural oils. . I like the products from Sensible Addictions they have salon quality products and great fragrances (for women and men). In your case they have a Aloe Shampoo that may be right. Also I would consider using a leave in conditioner to start then swith to a regular conditioner. You can find Sensible Addictions on the web sensibleaddictions. Try their stuff I think you will like them.