Why or why not?
P.S. If you absolutely cannot refrain from saying something to the tune of:
- If he's already planning on leaving me
- If he's already thinking about divorce
- If he really loves me, he would never
- Marriage is about (trust, love, etc)
then I suppose go ahead; but I'm genuinely interested in actual legitimate reasons.
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Well I would not want to sign one basically because of the reasons you mentioned.
There should be no doubt on either side that the marriage will last. If there is, then I don't think the two should get married. Going in with the mindset that "we may fail" could subconsciously deteriorate the marriage. Kinda like the 'tattoo curse' that we have heard about. As soon as you get a tattoo of your significant others name, the relationship fails. Bad analogy really...
But anyway, moving on...
I also don't like the idea because it undermines the core vows. The "til death do us part" vows, etc. Its like you're standing up there, saying all these things about promising to be by each others' sides forever, yet you signed a paper acknowledging that the marriage may fail. Like, what the hell, it doesn't get much more contradictory then that.
Also, a prenup makes it much easier to get out of a marriage that may be in a rut. Whereas if there was no prenup, the 2 people may realize that there is a lot at risk with the failed marriage, and put in more effort to make it work and come out on top.
I guess I'd consider myself old fashioned. When I get married, I don't want us to have any suspicions that 'it might not work', and I want us to be wiling to do whatever it takes to get through if things get rough. I want my marriage to last forever. Just like their supposed to.
Marriages are far too casual these days, in my opinion.0
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