Lack of common religious faith? Superficial culture? Career oriented women? Poor economy? Consumerism?
Are we just a f*cked up generation?
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I'm sure there's a number of factors that play into it.
First, I think a lot of people rush into marriage. I know a lot of people who got married after only knowing each other for a year or so, sometimes even less. In my experience, you still learn a lot about people even after knowing them for years, yet a lot of people decide that they want to spend their "life" with someone based on their short-term experiences with them. I think a lot of people are blinded by the fuzzy feelings you get when you fall in love with someone---they overlook flaws and areas where they're incompatible, and don't really consider the practical aspects of having a good and healthy relationship. I think media plays into this too---a lot of people have disillusioned ideas about love, romance, and relationships because they base their ideas on movies and books. Many people get into relationships thinking that they can "change" their partner or that "happily ever after" will happen without putting any effort or work into your relationship.
Some people get married quite young, too, when they're still maturing and discovering who they are as a person. People are constantly changing and growing, but I think a lot of that self-discovery takes place in your teens and twenties. There's also a lot of societal and familial pressures to get married either by a certain age or after you've been together with someone for x amount of time, or they feel pressured because it feels like all their friends and peers are getting married.
Our grandparents generation got married at a young age or after a short time of being together too, but they lived in a different time. People are more likely to get divorced now because its socially acceptable, women are less dependent (so they're more able to support themselves and/or their children if they leave a bad relationship), and I think our generation is more about instant-gratification rather than taking the time to work out problems (if things aren't perfect with one person, drop them and find someone new). When older generations had problems in their marriages, they either stayed in a bad marriage or they worked out their problems because divorce wasn't as much of an option as it is for us. It was viewed as shameful, and since most women didn't work (or even if they did, they might not make enough to support themselves), they couldn't leave because they might not have any place to go (and on the other side of the coin, perhaps men were less likely to divorce their wives because of the responsibility they felt to take care of them and not put them out on the street). Just because people have been married for a long time doesn't necessarily mean that its a good and happy marriage.2