I mean, for example: I like piercings/tattoos (I only have my tongue pierced atm.) I want to get collarbone piercings, and 5 or more tattoos.
However, my boyfriend hates piercings and tattoos, and he said I shouldn't ruin my body with pointless ink and holes. And he can hate it all he likes, I'm still going to get them.
My friend said I was being unfair because I still plan on getting them even though he hates them, and he has a say in what I do.
I disagree, it's my body, it's my life; and if he really hates them he can find another girl who hates them too, right? I don't see why he gets a say in what happens to my body. Sure we're in a relationship, but that doesn't mean he owns half of me.
What do you think you'd do in a similar situation?
Would you consider it "unfair" ?
Do you think you have a say in what your partner does to themselves? And what would you do if they went ahead with it anyway?
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I have pretty much the same view on this matter as you, and I know exactly what I would do. NO ONE dictates what I can and can't do with my body. Anyone who thinks they can, can f.uck right off, honestly. You can give me your opinion, and I'll listen, and take it into consideration. But ultimately, it's MY choice, and you can choose to respect and accept that, even grudgingly, or you can have a cow about it and find a girl who would never do anything to her body that you would dislike, simply because you dislike it.
In a relationship, I'm committed enough, respectful enough, and loyal enough to not share my body with others, and not really want to. I could choose to if I wanted to, like so many people do and have done and will continue to do. But loyalty is of the utmost importance to me in all aspects, romantic or not. Plus, to 'share myself' doesn't affect just me, it affects all parties involved, emotionally and health-wise. But otherwise, my body is my body, and I will do with it what I like. Personal adornments, clothing, makeup, hair, health, etc etc... step off.
Anyone who gets into a relationship with me will know my stance on things of this nature long before they date me. As far as body mods go, it should be fairly apparent that I like them, as I have one visible tattoo [so far] and a few visible piercings. Someone who dislikes those things gets to see them ahead of time and can choose to avoid me if it suits them. It's a nice way to weed out people who probably wouldn't suit me anyway.
And if after deciding my tats/piercings aren't a deal-breaker, and knowing my feelings about 'this issue', a guy would later break up with me for something I've decided to do to/with my OWN body... we're clearly not as well-matched as initially thought. I won't be guilt tripped or bullied about something like that. When it comes to my body and whatever changes I might make to it or choices I might make, I'm very 'take it or leave it'.3