So I've been dating/hanging out with this guy, and can't tell if he's mainly interested in sleeping with me or not. You know typical same old same old question: Does he like me for me or my body..
Except the answer is both , and I'm just wondering towards which side is he leaning more towards..
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I don't think asking him is a good idea. I have had girls ask me this question before and they would never believe my open and honest answer. I mean really, why would I like her just because of: her eyes, her smile, the way she talks, the way she looks when she is daydreaming, the way she acts when she is frustrated about something? I still don't know the answer girls expect to hear.
As for "same old same old", women think "If he takes me out to lunch then he is worth sleeping with." Whereas men think "I have to sleep with her to find out if she is worth taking out to lunch." The way it usually happens in the real world is either the girl trusts the guy and ends up burned or the guy keeps showing commitment and ends up burned. I think the trick is to find the balance between the two either by trusting each other on an intuitive level (trust that is gained through non-verbal language) or via open communication.
I think one of the tricks girls use to find if the guy is into them is to say they like something, on a side note, and see if the guy gets it for them =). For example, the last girl I was into told me that she loves grapefruits and I noticed that she spends a quite a bit of time between classes by making origami flowers. One day she had two really tough tests and I decided to cheer her up by giving her a grapefruit before each test. It took a lot of energy and courage to do it, but her smile was worth it a million times =). I also spent a day learning a bit of origami and made her an origami lily. I think an action is better than words when it comes to telling someone you like them =).
Oh and a small secret for you: guys LOVE when a girl LETS us do nice things for them and then APPRECIATES it. We like to feel chivalrous. And if a guy gets an opportunity, but doesn't act on it for whatever reason (can't find the courage, too out of this world) don't get too worked up about that, either.
To sum it up, there is really no given answer to you question. Just use your wit, charm and imagination and I am sure you will get the answer you are looking for!