I have been in a offline relationship for awhile and this guy knows it, we were or are friends and he works with my boyfriend. When others they work with bring this guy up, in front of me, they emphasize his name, like expecting a reaction or something.
I helped him through a bad breakup and now he won’t talk to me, answer emails etc.. but he constantly comes and reads my blog over and over again, as if he's hoping to find something but won’t say anything.
what does this mean and why won't he tell me what's up?
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Have you ever heard that psychologists/psychoanalysts never take family, friends or co-workers as patients? It is because when a person opens themselves up to someone, the person they open up to will get to see the weaker side of them, listen to their secret thoughts and feelings. And when someone has seen the weaker side of you, wouldn't you be a little cautious of them? That is why you never see patients becoming friends with their psychologists.
This guy opened up himself for you and talked about his ex, you helped him out. And now, whenever he sees you (offline or in real life) you remind him of the problems he had with his ex and he is cautious of you, because he shared some private thoughts with you and is afraid that you could potentially (even if he knows you never would) hurt him.
I don't know what you write about in your blog, but my guess would be that he looks over it because he unconsciously associated you with his feelings about the breakup. When he looks over your articles, it is like he is unconsciously trying to forget about the breakup or get over some of the thoughts he has about it.
I think the best thing to do is to never remind him about the breakup again unless he brings it up. Just act like you were never involved. I don't think talking will lead anywhere in this situation, but I could be mistaking.