Every guy that I meet online is looking for a girlfriend. and whenever we meet it's always an instant relationship. like by agreeing to hang out with sometime I'm somehow agreeing to be their girlfriend. This is why I never let the guy pay for me, but some guys WILL NOT let me pay for myself no matter what I do. So I've stumbled upon this mentality where I assume that every guy that I meet is interested in dating me. Is this wrong?
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The problem is that many girls say the same thing----oh, I'm only looking for a friendship; however, I have hooked up with a lot of these girls so whenever I hear that line from a girl, I knew that's not what she meant. Maybe what's going on is that by agreeing to hang out with these guys, they are thinking, 'ah, she does like me, maybe I can move in and conquer.' :)
Now, think of the mixed message that is being sent. Guy says he is looking for a gf; he asks you out to hang out; you agree. You already know what the guys intentions are, but yet you still agree to meet him. So guy is thinking, 'if she wasn't interested, she wouldn't agree to hang out, so maybe there is a chance.' See how things can get out of control right from the start?
Possibly your best bet is not to hang out with the guys that are looking for relationships cause there is a conflict of interest being created right from the start, if you see what I mean. :)1