"Why are they with me now?"
I was going through some of the new friends the guy I'm currently seeing added on FB. It then occurred to me how pretty most of them are. While looking at them I remembered him telling me that he had slept with most of his female friends, I didn't mind this, since we're in a casual relationship. But for some reason I felt uneasy looking at all these hot girls and thinking he's probably slept with all of them. I kinda feel inadequate now.
This is really strange for me, since I'm usually quite confident. I know I'm not absolutely beautiful and I'm fine with it. Somehow seeing the standard of girls he's been with shook me.
Do you guys ever get hard-hitting moments like this? Thinking if someone's ex is so hot, then what do they see in me? I'd like to know how the people here deal with this.
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That may be the physical standard of who he has had sex with, but that doesn't mean they meet his standard for a relationship. We get so caught up in thinking that physical beauty and sex are king in determining who guys are in relationships with, but it just doesn't correlate. Yes, a guy has to be physically attracted to a girl to have sex with her and enter into a relationship, but many guys have wide ranges of what they find attractive.
I have an ex who was very pro at objectifying women for their physical attributes and "collecting" sexual experiences with these women, but he could have cared less to make them girlfriends. He had completely different criteria for a girlfriend. He did not want a woman who depended on him financially and wanted a woman who was very in to him and made him a priority, even if he did not necessarily make us a priority. I recall this one girl called him and left a message and he could not understand her. She had a strong accent. He asked me to help him out and when I finally figured out her name and told him, he recognized her and then told me all about her and how she was physically so perfect. But, she was very much a diva and that was fine for him for sex, but he never would have made her a girlfriend. See how much value he actually placed on her hotness, not much. If I called him now, he would know who I was without me even leaving my name.0