I have been with this man for 8 years. We have a daughter and son on the way as we speak. Many things have been bothering me like is he ever gonna pop the question, do he respect me when I'm not around, and do he truly love me. I say this because for years now he is constantly looking for more females to add to his phone and sometimes are speaking to them as if he has been single all day everyday. I question his love because he has cheated on me and states that he won't do it but he is constantly finding new girls, asking for inappropriate picture, and asking when can they meet. He doesn't respect me as his women because he is doing all these things and as soon as I say "What If I do it" then he goes off like he can't take it but is it okay for him to do it to me. He thinks that there is nothing wrong with this when I am home taking care of his child, cleaning his house and underwear, cooking his food, and sexing him on the regular. Am I suppose to sit here and deal with the fact that my man will never be that?
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NO! you are not supposed to sit there and deal with it. From a woman to another, women have to wise up when it comes to guys like this. Keep this in mind, men do not stay where there needs aren't being met. But women will continue to stay where there needs aren't being met. So for him to stay with you for 8 years has nothing to do with respect or love obviously. Because he is getting his needs met and has no regards for yours. Love is not blind as often said, and you need not tobe.
True Love within warns you like whistles, horns and alarms. Love says, don't stay with someone who deliberately chooses to use you for their own personal gain. You have to take back control of your own mind, body and soul. I don't care if he is the children's father. Kids always respect parents who give up messy folks for their peace and yours. You must find the strength to end his " disrespectful behavior." Why as women we identify the foolish behavior, and then ask" what should I do"? Let me empower you for a minute. You are smart, worthy of love, created by God to be loved and worthy enough to tell this idiot go do your tramps so I can finally be the Hero in my own story. He is telling you with his actions that you are not enough for him. . Maya Angela once say, " When a person shows you who they are, " belive them" Believe him girl, that's who he is. And its not for you. Remember, take hold of your own destiny.cause if he does it once, your a victim. But if he does it over and over, now your a volunteer. Take your life Back0