U can be hot/cute very attractive but not as funny as the less attractive girl/guy who would you choose? and why?
just curious =)
Im sorry for not being clear with what I meant, but what I wanted to know was would you rather go for or be the hot attractive boy/girl but not havin this natural charm that comes with a good personality like being funny and so on ,or the opposite?
You don't think you can get the best of both worlds? I would go for a person who has both. I would never just go for the girl who was insanely hot but said things like, " my mom said I can do anything...but she aso used to beat me with a spatula and call me a retard."
Unless they were being sarcastic with that, a red flag shoulda gone up.
I mean look at Paul Rudd, Ryan Reynolds, James Franco and so many others, they are all attractive and funny as f***. Or Tina Fey, Amy Smart, Mila Kunis, all these people are great to look at but can make you laugh. So don't settle for a dumb ass who is hotter than the sun but not that bright.
Easy one. The attractive person. As to the funny person, that sounds more like a friend. And who would want to date someone you see as a friend? Besides people who are 'funny' can be grating. Because they have no sense of moderation, they think they have to make you laugh over every little thing. Which is probably indicative of some kind of insecurity...
In this world, looks DO matter - for both men and women. Guys, at least, are honest about their superficiality and willing to try and work around it. Very few women I meet are honest about this either with themselves or others.
It's a proven fact that people are willing to donate more to a good-looking bell ringer/charity person than an ugly one, and gender doesn't matter.
In this world, it is better to be good looking than it is to be ugly, just like it is better to be rich than poor.
Anyone who says otherwise is just trying to sound nice or displaying an incredible amount of naivete.
Sorry for coming off like a jerk, I just wish people would be more honest with questions like this. Intellectual dishonesty is something that really bugs me.
More importantly, I'd choose to have the BRAINS. I actually don't prefer my looks, if there is such a thing as preference. If we are going based off of perceptions or whatever, then I don't fit my looks. I'm not some kind of people person though I'm constantly asked about "all" of my friends. I only have 2 close friends, and I'm generally cautious with everyone else. I don't seem, just from my looks, like I should act the way I do but here I am.
So yeah, looks don't mean much to me. I'd much rather have my brains and all that over my looks.
Generally speaking I choose personality over looks. But if you're lacking only one personality trait then I may go for looks. Basically if she's not that funny, but still fun to be around, then I'll take her looks over the other girl who is less pretty, funnier, and all other aspects the same. If by contrast, she had no personality what-so-ever, then I'd take the girl with personality.
i'm blessed with both :) I developed a personality before I realized I was attractive and I also had gfs before that fact.. then the older I got the more I took care of myself and my body and now I have both.. this proved to me personality outweighs looks.. you can be ugly and have a personality but you can't be good looking and boring.. that is if you want true love
Luckily, in the real world, you don't have to be less attractive to be funny or nice or cool.
All attraction starts with the outside. So, with everyone having a different definition of attractive, there is someone for everyone. I observe couples and they do not all look like Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt. Lot's of "unattractive" people have relationships. Many classically attractive people do not.
Once you are snared by the physical, well everything else about a person can make or break whether this will turn into love and a L/T relationship or not. So, we all choose both the outside and the inside, in various combinations with some elements being more important to us and some being less important.
Personality usually wins out, unless the person is physically revolting...
For example, I never considered fat, hairy-chested guys as attractive at all. I much preferred the lean, smooth types. I also preferred blue or green eyes.
Then I met a fat, hairy guy with a great sense of humour and a lovely smile, and lively, brown eyes. His personality changed the way I viewed his physical aspects. Suddenly the dark eyes were appealing, and the hairy chest exotic, and the fat belly was cute...
So if their personality grabs you, then you can learn to love their body, with all it's supposedly "unattractive" foibles, simply because it's theirs.
That said, it does depend just how unattractive they are... There are obviously degrees, and there are some things which it's simply not possible for me to overcome (though others' tastes differ, obviously).
Inside. I understand physical attraction, but who wants to be stuck with a vapid, boring person, albeit gorgeous? There's no fun in it! I'd rather have an awesome personality! It would be like being stuck with a doll.
I would say that it depends, I feel like looks are more important to guys than to girls, but guys don't really have to be really good looking, as long as they are "fun enough" but girls have to be pretty, and lots of times personality doesn't count... this bothers me...
what is good looking,you want to show him off or do you want a real relationship!who do you feel most does it for you ,the funny one who will always stay the same as that is his character, or the good looking one whos center of attention to most but does he do that for you,
I guess both are important, but having a good sense of humour is always something I look for in a guy. Having a good personality can make people seem way more attractive, and I normally end up going for the funny guy. :)