What would be the reason a guy would make a girlfriend/wife change their hair color, nail polish, make hair appointments for them to have a perm, straigtened.? Would it be a form of control, wanting them to change their entire look, etc or some totally different reason? Is this love?
I feel the way he's doing it is very controlling and that yes, it's being done in an unloving manner...
I think a more acceptable alternative would be him talking to you about it like -- "Honey, as much as I love your hair, I think it'd be awesome if you tried blond hair (for example) for a little while. What do you think?" -- It gives you the option to go with it IF YOU WANT, without him just going off and making you do it.
I feel that a man can fully accept his wife/girlfriend for who she is, but ask for a temporary physical change every once in a while, as long as it's something like her hair or a certain style of dress. It maintains a little variety...
It just has to be approached and handled in the right "fashion" ;)
Ah no, this is clearly a form of control, and really interfering with someone else's look is beyond the pale. It's one thing to give your opinion, but to force a complete makeover like this reminds me of Pygmalion. You know this will always boomerang eventually.
No, if you love someone you don't obsess about their hair style and you let them decide these things for themselves!
This is odd behavior for a guy, because most guys date girls hoping that they don't (radically) change their looks - ever! Maybe he's trying to make you look like some other girl he has a crush on. Maybe he just likes variety.