I'm just saying, you know how sometimes people who aren't the best looking have crushes on really hot people, but then when that really hot person won't go for them they'll call them "shallow". Like you're not for pining away for the hottie anyway, it's not like you were interested in them because they performed brain surgery. You liked their looks, but they didn't like yours and now you're butt hurt.
Why do they do that? Everyone gets rejected in life no need to lash out
"Like you're not for pining away for the hottie anyway, it's not like you were interested in them because they performed brain surgery. You liked their looks, but they didn't like yours and now you're butt hurt."
very valid point, maybe they're shallow too? it seems more like a defense mechanism to me because they're hurt over being rejected. rejection sucks, but everyone goes through it... just because you like a person doesn't mean that they have to like you back. we all have the right to decide who to date--why? because our lives are our own and we have to do whatever we need to do to be happy.
so basically, don't worry about those people, they don't run your life.
There is more to the story than to just say that "ugly" people call good looking people shallow. You are wrong people don't call just good looking people shallow, people call everybody shallow when people perceive that the other person's standards are too high and that they cannot see through looks to see what person they are in the inside. I think there is more to the story than what you state here, you probably told him what you are looking for and he perceived that to be beyond of what he could provide, or beyond of what he perceived normal people could provide. That is why he called you shallow. I am not saying that you should what he said 100% in consideration, but think about what he said: Do you really think he had a reason to tell you that? Maybe you should considerate your standards and see if in fact your standards are too high. I mean people just don't call others shallow just because they got rejected, there is always more to that.
he's hurt because you rejected him because you think he's not good looking enough (or he thinks that) (question: did you actually tell him that?)
it can't be easy to work up the courage to approach a girl he might think is out of his league, then get rejected. It must hurt. So he is just feeling the hurt. That doesn't mean he's shallow. Nor you, necessarily (I mean, he could have been acting dork-ish. Maybe if he was cool and confident you'd have given him more).
Because they ARE shallow (or at least seem to be unless the aforementioned unattractive person has a horrible personality or something). Just because the unattractive people are hypocrites doesn't mean they're wrong.