K, I'm not sure if you guys can really see my picture, but anyways, I'm wondering how come the 'good' girls won't go out with me? I'm a really outgoing guy, fit and muscular type of guy, I don't think I'm THAT bad looking. In college at the moment, I'm 23 years old, and most girls are 18 or 19. Like I've asked girls to go for coffee, and some of them just make up some excuse like, "I'm going to a movie with a friend." And there's this other girl that wore a ring on her ring finger the next day and I know she's single. I mean what's the deal here? I don't make it awkward or anything. The girls still talk to me. do I look like a gangster or a drug dealer or a player or what? Or am I saying something wrong? I just can't seem to ask out a girl without them making some lame excuse. Is something wrong with me? Or do they think I'm too old for them? Too outgoing for them? Or they think I'm outta their league?
Most girls that know me well tell me that I'm a really nice guy, and can't believe I don't have a girl friend.
What's wrong with me?
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The pic is tiny.
Are you coming on too strong?
Here's the thing, younger girls don't know what they want. They don't have a clue what signals to send and what signals they are sending to guys.
If you talk to an older girl, right away she lets you know if your invited or not to take her on a date. Thus the blessing of older chicks. Rather then talking to the younger ones, try hitting up older girls or if you insist on chatting with the younger ones, take your time. They take a bit to open up.
"And there's this other girl that wore a ring on her ring finger the next day and I know she's single. I mean what's the deal here? I don't make it awkward or anything. The girls still talk to me."
- this little observation makes you seem a little desperate. Not that I'm saying you are a loser or have no possible chance of getting girls. You're a good looking guy but you still want it too much. I talk to my girlfriends all the time and they can snuff out a desperate guy out a mile away.
Just keep it cool, like the saying goes, everything will fall into place and *click. Go with it with an "if it happens, then it happens" attitude.2
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