I've always had to date people that I had to build up my interest in and kind of play along with. I'm so jealous that most of my friends get to date people they are attracted to and enjoy the company of. I know I'm not as good as they are, so I'm going to have to stick with the "building someone up" style of dating. How can I stop being unhappy about not getting someone I feel strong chemistry with, even if I know I don't deserve it?
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Whoa...just this week I was wondering about this for myself in a way. Not to sound like whatever, but I don't really have a problem attracting or talking to people that I'm not attracted to, but I seem to be ignored or non-existent to the people that I am attracted to. I can't help but feel like I'm the one that's doing something wrong. Maybe I have too high of standards? Maybe I'm too reserved for their tastes? Maybe they assume things about me from how I act? Maybe they don't pay attention to someone they will only see once? Who knows man.
"people who get to be in relationships with people they really like"...that's what stood out to me, because I wondered the exact same thing to myself. Like, what do I have to do? Am I shooting too high or what? Those were rhetorical questions by the way.1