Let's say you've lived most of your life believing you were completely and utterly un-attractive. What if you have never made a move on anyone because you always though you would have been turned down. And you always used to put your head down and never make eye contact with people. So you never noticed what was going on around you. You were too shy and afraid to ask anyone out. And on the odd occasion you dared to make eye contact and smile at a girl, they would just put their heads, so you never bothered to do anything like that.
And then, one day, you actually noticed that people of the other sex paid you a lot of attention, even people of the same sex. You could be just out for a walk and you notice that most groups of young girls watch you walk by. Or you see an insecure partner being reassured as you walk past them. Or say you're in a supermarket and you notice women in there giving the odd smile as you walk past. I'm not saying every person does this, but those that do are usually the really attractive ones.
What if it dawns on you that all the people you have asked out probably felt threatened by this, but you were totally unaware and so did nothing to reassure them that you weren't like that.
What if you still felt totally insecure after witnessing all the attention you actually get.
Has anyone found themselves in this situation, and if so, what did you do?
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When I was younger I wouldn't say I was the prettiest or had the best body. Most of my friends always had guys bending over backwards to date them, take them out, flirt. I never got asked to dance at school dances, but I always had lots of friends, I was the "funny" friend. People like to be around me guys and girls cause I was fun, good sense of humor. As I got older I experimented wtih different styles, hair color etc.. and finally had some long term bf's. What I notice now... is I am aging REALLY well. I have never felt or looked better. I see men looking at me, and my gf's that use to get ALL THE boys when we were younger are now telling me how incredible I look. Its a great feeling! I have learned that not everyone gets their moment to shine at the same time. Some in highschool, early 20's or 30's. But we all get our chance and to embrace it when it comes. This I have learned.1