I've been struggling with my appearance for a long time and it just isn't getting better. I wear make-up, I work out, and yet I still don't get more attractive.
What I really want to do is just accept being unattractive and start getting rid of the false hope that I'll ever have a family. But whenever I start making head-way, and start feeling good about my progress, my friends yell at me for "having low self-esteem."
But it's NOT low self-esteem, I really AM ugly. Guys never hit on me, and my last two boyfriends dumped me for being ugly. Really... they flat out told me I was.
So how do I just accept it and deal with it, especially when my friends and people around me scold me for not being "confident?"
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My friends scold me for having low confidence also so I don't talk about my appearance anymore to them...instead I brought this journal and I began to write about it. Personally, it helps me a lot. I highly doubt that your ugly ----your boyfriends we're obviously jerks who just wanted to hurt you. Why would they be with you if they felt very unattractive to you in the first place. And even if they weren't ...i don't think any great guy would flat out admit it. They were jerks.
No one is ugly ---no one is flawless . You can still have a family.
I write a list of things I want to change about myself ---and I work on everything individually.
It helps because I really get in focus on changing things to help me get comfortable with being me.
(Also, if you don't wear the right make-up or apply in a way that suits you, it can actually make your appearance worse. I rarely wear it but my friend is pretty --thought she was ugly--wore make up and it made her look worse). What don't you like about yourself?0