Weird as it is , I get where you coming from. I agree with you , its quite unfair and different. I'm from New York and I see all kinds of people everyday. There is so many decent good looking guys in New York, and Most of them settle with women if I had to do a scale from 1-10 they would be 6 -7 at best, Even hot guys too. I'm not bashing women or calling them ugly or anything, just that even least attractive females can get a hot guy in a heart beat. Believe it or not the reason is quite simple and this the only way I know how to explain it so don't judge me . Ever noticed when your in a relationship and the argument isn't going in her favor she will say "Fine No sex then.", now see how your caught in a bind? Now you will pretty much do anything she asks you to do, if it was reverse it wouldn't work because women realize they don't need it and can get it anytime she wants. I can't really explain it completely but its the same way with relationships and flirting. Say there's a guy name Jake, he's about an 8, good looking, Sweet, funny, and fit, now there's a girl name Jessica, She's beautiful and possibly perfect. You would think they would be a good couple together, In reality its a 50 50 chance they can happen. If there's a guy named Kyle who is 10, sexy and Ripped and Sweet, Jake pretty much lost most of the spotlight to kyle and Jessica's attention would be focused on him more. Jake learns that you can't always win the big prize every time, and then a normal girl can come around then your attention is on her. You will never know if that average girl would make him happier then Jessica , but in the back of his mind he will wish he had Jessica. Its the way of the dating world works, Its like Survival of the fittest and competition every single second. There is no rules , anything pretty much goes. =( sad but true.