I suffer from extreme low self esteem- where sometimes I never leave my room for a whole day because I get depressed.
I have issues with body image as I imagine myself to be plain or unattractive to men since I had no serious boyfriend or guy friends.
In college, couple of guys will move and sit next to me in class or look at me in the hallways but I've always dismissed their behavior as a coincidence since they never really talk to me even if they sit near me. I rarely get approached or hit on by men in public, the only ones that do are old enough to be my grandpa or father and they usually just ask me for direction on public transport.
My mother says that I'm attractive many times ( as well as my other siblings), but I simply won't believe her because I never feel assured of my attractiveness. She goes as far as to say that I should be dating and seducing some rich man instead of looking to date guys my age ( I'm 22, btw). My sister says that I shouldn't be single and I should be out with a handsome boyfriend every weekend when I'm home.
I don't know why guys don't easily approach me at school... Sometimes I get the feeling like I'm quite intimidating to guys and sometimes I feel like I'm not so attractive enough for guys to actually get over their fears of approaching me.
I'm reluctant to go out these days and enjoy the summertime because of my insecurities and I feel worse about myself when I see gleeful couples holding hands and eating ice cream together outside...
How easy do pretty girls have it with guys, I wonder sometimes...
Are random guys in their age range more likely to flirt with them when they are out? Or do they have it just as bad as average looking girls? I don't know if I'm pretty or average looking and that is a huge issue for me because or I was certain I was pretty enough, I would probably be more outgoing and flirty towards guys...i view myself as average looking and nothing special and that if I were to approach guys, they wouldn't welcome it at all and I would just be making a fool out of myself and them.
The only guy who I had romantic relations with actually broke up with me about 2 years ago... We started a long distance type relationship thing and he told me he was initially intimidated to approach me.
So help me people, I don't know what to make of this situation and I'm really depressed and hopeless...im at an age where I should start dating, ( other people are pressuring me to find a boyfriend) but I don't know how to perk myself up...
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I don't think your problem with guys is being unattractive, but more with confidence. you have to work on your self'esteem or you'll never go anywhere. I think that the real reason you haven´t had a boyfriend is because you don't even try. you have to stpo waiting for them to come to you. go to them! talk to them, flirt and stop depressing yourself for such a stupid thing. You are who you are, you have to learn to live with that. Improve it if you can, but if you can't...well, then why suffer for something you cannot change? I don't think you´re that ugly. (Which I don't know since you didn't include a picture) but believe me, no matter how attractive you may be, if you don't have confidence, you will not look attractive. }
Don't care to much about what others think, and if you do something to improve yourself (new haircut, work out, etc.) do it for you, not for the guys or those you want to think of you as someone attractive.
And to answer your question...yes. every parent sees their children as beautiful. but it doesn't mean you are not. I don't think it is a coincidence that guys stare at you and try to approach you.0