OK, So Let me give you a brief story. I am a 20 year old black male in college. Body type is a little skinny, with little to none muscle here and there, so you can say petite. I am 5 ft 6in and I wear mainly t-shirts (although I am moving towards AE clothing lines) and baggy pants.My dating and hookup preference is more towards white girls. I am not too keen on black girls. This doesn't mean I am racist. I just feel I am more attracted and feel that I can click more to white girls. And plus they are a lot cuter.
Moving on: I have dreadlocks. About a little past my shoulders. I take care of them. I wash them, tend to them, Clean them on the daily basis. I also bleached the tips of them brown so they could have a bit of coloration and so I can stand out.
My Dilemma started out like this: Whenever I go to parties and whenever I try to get with a girl, and there is another guy doing the same thing, the other guy wins, even though he is either a.) unintelligent b.) Bad hygiene c.) pot head d.) an asshole e.) a sloppy drunk. I am not saying I am perfect, but I am a guy who has his own sense of style, brushes his teeth daily, smells good, smart, and does not do drugs, and the nicest person in the world. I would give anything, yet I always fail in getting in a relationship. It has been two years since I was in a relationship and I seem to fail somewhere. At another party, someone told me that its my dreadlocks that makes me unattractive, because all it really is is dead hair and dirty and messy, which is not true because I had a few girls tell me its the cleanest dreads they ever seen.
The question is: Do you think dreadlocks (preferably my dreadlocks I have described) are attractive? and if that is not the problem, then what is?
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You should definitely cut your dreads. I'm mixed, half black and half white; I had to make the same choice a couple years ago when I cut my hair. I was rockin braids for about 6 years throughout middleschool and high school and by the time I was a senior I just got rid of them. I used to dress with that American eagle preppy look but that's not a good look anymore. Now that I'm in college I just gravitated my wardrobe to be some nice v-necks, slim straight jeans and high tops basically. This is just what I pretty much wear, when it's nice out, but when it's hot I will switch it up to like a casual polo tee shirt with some flat-front khaki shorts and some mid top air max's. I'm not sayin this is the way you should dress but it's a direction you could go if you want to switch up your look. As for the reason why girls don't choose you I would have to guess is because you don't take risks. I get that feeling that you are "safe" because you don't get drunk and you don't do drugs. It feels like I wrote a novel so I don't wanna go on much longer. If you want more help just comment on here and I will chime in more.0