Not trolling, honest. Just curious about how black girls feel about the views on beauty in society. Most White guys usually aren't attracted to them, same for Asians from what I've heard (just what I've heard). Some Latinos like them but black guys like them most and even some of them prefer other women. Most women depicted as beautiful on TV are not black, most beauty pageant winners are not black, and many average guys say they don't see many beautiful black girls. Also they have the highest statistic for being unmarried by a certain age and the highest rate for fatherless homes (though that isn't really their fault nor should it be based on beauty) and many of them ate single. Black women who are successful have a hard time getting men as well. They're judged for their hair, their facial features, body types, and sometimes their skin. More black guys like White girls and others than White guys and others like black women.
How do you all feel about this? Is it frustrating? Do you not care?
I honestly don't care I like my features, my curves, my hair, and my skin and throwing a fit about it won't change the minds of anyone who feels that I should'nt. You can go back and fourth with a person til you're blue in the face but if that's how they feel that's how they feel.
You would actually be shocked at how many white guys are into black women, I date white men lol and they've all approached me and they've all come from different lifestyles, "The Jock", "The Rich Kid", The Wigger", The Nerd" "The Rocker, "The Emo", "The Country Boy", and "The City Boy" so I can't be hideous...
and plus at the end of the day, when I'm all alone looking in the mirror I have to love what I see, there's nobody there to tell me what I should look like or that I'm beautiful and as long as I love what I see simple minded people don't matter..
and this question didn't offend me you never said those were your views you're just stating what you've heard or witnessed on tv..and even if that is how you feel idc that's your opinion
to be honest it is depressing that we are viewed that way. Personally, I couldn't care less. I've personally been hit on by guys of all races (except Asian for some reason lol) so I don't really see it being applied in my life. To be honest I actually have more white guys hit on me and I live in Toronto where its very multicultural. Not really trying to be controversial here but I think it is because I have a lighter skin tone and we are more socially accepted or viewed as attractive. In no way am I saying I think I'm better but in general does society and the media seem to portray it that way? yeah I think they do.
I personally don't like when people say they aren't attracted to a certain race. Yeah OK you can't choose who you like yadda yadda blah blah blah but to say you aren't attracted to 100% of a certain race is ridiculous and racist in my opinion. I'm sure there is at least one person out there from x race that you would be attracted to.
Basically, it is hurtful and depressing to hear that and see it reinforced in a lot of places. Even on this site you have people say stuff about how black girls are unattractive *sigh*
I don't really get bothered about it aha. I've been with white guys before, so I can't be terribly ugly :P. ..Even small things like makeup commercials on TV have you ever seen a black girl advertising it? Its like they don't acknowledge the fact that there are girls with dark skin, so that can be annoying. Or if they do, it happens to be a person with very light skin aka halle berry. So like another user said on here, society is into lighter skinned black people.
But then you go on sites like this, and you see the same thing:
"we are less feminine,"
"all we care about is size""
"we are the only group of girls who wear weaves"
"we have bigger ...umm lady parts" ahah
"if I ever date a black girl she has to be really exceptional"
" I couldn't imagine touching a black person, because its offputting"
so things like that gets annoying :/ I don't understand why we have so much negativity reflected on us.
It's true - as a young black woman, I feel like our beauty is never good enough.
We don't ever get the praise and recognition as any other type of race in the world. Even Asian women are put on a pedastal for how exotic they are. Black women are the only women in society who just aren't embraced in the same manner.
It's disheartening. I remember growing up thinking I'll never fall in love, because I'd never be pretty enough for any kind of dude. And realizing I didn't have a remote attraction to black men, made me feel all the worse.
I won't lie - I use to wish I had pretty white girl hair, smaller lips, colorful eyes - things like that. Sometimes I'd even cry because I felt so awful about myself. Each day was just a simple reminder that I will never be seen as beautiful as those women, or even beautiful at all.
However as I got older, I realized how off I was. Sure the media and fashion and all that stuff we take to heart as being 100% truth, still doesn't recognize us as beautiful -
But I and many many others do. Statistics lie - reality speaks a little louder for itself. I've seen all sorts of black woman / white guy / Asian guy / latino guy couples - I've heard white guys go on and on and on about how stunning they think black women are - my mom dated a Hispanic guy who adored black women - my uncle (Korean,) married a black woman.
On top of all that, I've been hit on by guys all across the color spectrum. It's hard to sit here today and think so harshly about myself in the midst of all that. More and more interracial relationships with black women are appearing every where - typically pairings with white men. I get hit on so much by white guys it's just unbelievable sometimes lol.
They accept me for my African American features, and appreciate them - I'm exotic and beautiful to them - a concept I never thought any man would have for me.
But the media and those ideas are so retarded - what makes it even worse is that people are constantly sucking on the media's nuts because everyone's to afraid to be like, hey, I can think for myself.
I still have my doubts sometimes, and still wish for a day when real black women without all the fake hair, ligtened skin etc - will be shown as beautiful along with all the other beautiful women in the world.
I'm not sure why everyone is getting so upset about this. It's a totally legit question. I mean, I guess I can see why some black girls may be offended but from what I've noticed and my PERSONAL experiences, everything you said is true. (note: I think many black women are attractive but in today's society, they are seen as less attractive. Though personally, I don't like to base beauty on race) anyway, my boyfriend is black. And all my black guy friends prefer white women. and maybe it's just my area but it is what it is. Black girls DO NOT like me, and I havn't done anything to them. I don't have any problems with them at all, they just don't like the fact that my boyfriend is black. I guess they think I'm "stealing their men" but it's not my fault he approached me first, and he wanted to date me. (This is strictly the black girls I know, I can't say anything about other black girls). But I guess if I were black, I wouldn't care. Plenty of men love black women, I wouldn't really care about the ones who didn't.
As a black woman, I feel like I possess one of the most exotic types of beauty in the world. Few other people can have my dark skin (East Indians and Ethiopians which are African), no other ethnicity can have my unique textured, coily hair, it's rare to find brown eyes that are so dark they look black and can just suck you in... I love it. I embrace my features and I wouldn't change them for anyone's approval. I used to be frustrated by society and the media telling black women that we are not as valuable. Then one day, I realized not only is my purpose in this world greater than impressing others with my physical appearance, but all sets of features can be beautiful :)
I know for a fact that black women who are successful do not have a hard time getting a man. The reasons why a woman may not be able to get a man go deeper than how she looks. Maybe it's the way she acts or how she doesn't act. Black women are not the only women on the face of the Earth who may have difficulty getting a man. Stop clumping us together and trying to despite our value.
I'm black and I go a school that is 98% white school and I don't feel bad most of the time but it is frustrating in the dating area, but I'm hot, sexy and yummy, and if someone can't see that screw them.
I care cus I am a black female who does not understand why race has to be an issue, and I believe I'm pretty. I think there comes a time where we have to believe we are pretty, when you believe it others will see the confidence and believe, and we have to carry ourselves in appropriate manner, it's sad that some people that represent the black female type. Have really made us look bad, with video vixens and reality TV, stars people should not judge us by our skin but what we have to offer
You should not ask this question here because you know that most of the people are being hypocrite.Many comments here said it doesn't matter and they find black women are attractive and all but everyone know tht fact(never want to admit it).You can know many hypocrites here. When comes to vote for skin colour,light skin got the highest votes. See? I bet some commenters here think tht black women are unattractive but left such a hypocrite comments.I didn't mean to make black women feel bad as I'm not white myself but thts the world now,its life.Sorry If my answer made anyone feel bad.
There are many people who are the exceptions to everything you've said and that is enough to make someone believe that even with those statistics they are their own person. They don't have to care because what you've said doesn't necessarily apply to them. I personally don't really care.
the media loves spreading propaganda about blacks and this season, black women are the target. Nothing new. However I have a problem with people outside the black community speaking on us, when they have no clue. The few white people who even associate with blacks probably only have a handful of token black friends who are whitewashed assimilated. Meaning, they love to be around whites and don't connect with most black people so taking your stats and info from them is pointless cause their mentalities are warped anyway. African Americans pretty much stick to ourselves, especially if you live in the southern united states, most of you are going on stereotypes and hearsay instead of 1st hand fact. If you are not black, I'm not really sure why you care so much but I'll answer anyway
Most black women will only date black men. I will say at least 75% of black women have no desire to date outside of their race and would not do it. Trust me, I know a lot of black people seeing as I am one and so are the majority of my friends and family. The black women who are interested and attracted to others are a minority in the first place, and seem to usually date latin men first, then arab/Muslim, ethnic white (italian, greek) then whites and asians.
Majority of black men prefer us. The few who are vocal about disliking us do it because they have been rejected by black women in the past for some reason or have been raised to date white to assimilate. The standard of beauty in our community is light skin black girls but they are black women who look black. No mistaking the average yellowbone for a white girl because that's not what they want. Black men do like latinas but white girls? The guys who date white girls are usually the ones we don't want. Sorry!
TV is not controlled by blacks, it is controlled by whites and whites are 72% of the population. why would they put us on TV when there are more whites watching it?
Since you like stats so much check these from Howard University: link
Question asker, how many black people do you even know? It sounds like you get all your info about us from the media and then try and act like it's fact that applies to all of us. Seriously, do you know any black women personally at all?
i don't know why people are hating on you. it's a completely legitimate question.
i'm white but my last boyfriend was black and he's never dated black girls nor does he want to. a lot of other black guys I know aren't attracted to black girls either. and most other races aren't... I mean it's just the way things are, not being racist or anything.
and this guy is asking about your average black girl, not tyra or beyonce or other models. honestly I think every race has it's own good features and its own not so good features, but if I were a black girl I think I would feel a little frustrated. again, not being racist, this guy is onto something true even though it's kind of hard to admit.
It really doesn't affect me because I'm coincidentally only attracted to black and some latino men. So I don't care what whites, Asians and other guys find attractive. One thing that does p*ss me off is that people will slander us and be rude for no reason. Like if you don't like black girls, great, but keep us out of your mouths. It could be something on the internet about "black women" and some idiot will make it a point to say how we're all mean, ghetto, etc. when they probably only know 3 black women total. Most black guys, at least the ones I've come across, prefer black women or at least women with black features. I don't see that many black guys chasing after white girls like the stereotype says. I don't have a problem getting a guy and neither do most of my friends, black guys don't leave us alone actually. Most black people live and work in black communities so the average nonblack isn't going to know or see that many of us anyway. I was raised not to care what they think because due to racism people are always going to see us at the bottom so why try to be accepted by people who don't like you anyway?
Since I'm dumb enough to respond to just about any topic with the words "tomboy" or "black" in it.
I just want to clear one thing up on what you said. And get this...this is in the defense of black women. At least the beauty part. Ohh noes!
"but black guys like them most and even some of them prefer other women."
This has nothing to do with their beauty or lack off. Most if not all of the time it's due to one, the "reject" black guys with little to no swag, jumped ship to the other side where substance is required more than swag and hyper masculinity. And two, it's because a lot of black women are less submissive and more matriarchal than other women is another reason why black men jumped ship.
Oh and when it comes to sex appeal, black women are high on the charts. Especially in the p0rn industry. Lacey Duvalle and Jada Fire are examples. There's plenty of attractive black women in the media, but they are all either mixed with another race or white women dipped in chocolate which infuriates me.