my husband does this. he won't let me wear skirts or dresses. the only thing that he lets me wear is pants and a tank top. I even put shorts under my skirt and dresses but he still won't let me. I recently bought a dress off hot topic.com and I put it on and he said "your wearing that" and I said yes and then he said "were not going any where. by the way he's 38 and I'm 22. I don't know if it has to do with his age or being insecure or what but he's bringing my self esteem down and I'm trying so hard to not let him get to me. he doesn't up at all and is overweight and doesn't have style anymore because he gained weight but if he really loved me then he wouldn't control what I wear. no rude comments please.
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All men are basically the same. They see a pretty girl showing a lot of skin and go "ya!" Then they see other guys looking at her and go "what's wrong with you woman? put something on!" My guess is that he really liked the way you were dressing... and thought other men might like the way you were dressing too.
My ex used to do this to me as well. I couldn't get out the door without him pointing out at least three things that he didn't like about the way I dressed. I was really hurt, and for a while I actually thought that he was right. But then I started to realize that women complimented me on my outfits pretty regularly. And men always liked me. And I knew that if I was dressing provocatively, my mother would lecture me about it for a year. So I eventually figured out that it was him.
If it didn't bother you to dress the way he is suggesting, I would say "let it go" (there are better reasons to fight). But since it is interfering with your self esteem, I think you should have a talk with him. Let him know that you have a right to dress any way that you would like, and that if he doesn't like it, he knows where the door is. He has a right to ask you to change... and you have a right to say no.0