On the rare occaision that I go out, my husband will act like he's fine with it, but then won't look at me or speak to me before and after (like when I get home, or the next day). I feel like he hates me. He's never been the possessive or jealous type - as a matter of fact, he's not afraid to tell me how unattractive he finds me. So its not like he's worried I'm gonna hook up. What the hell is he doing?
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You husband is missing your attention. I don't know in what form the attention should take for him personally, but in some way you are not fulfilling what he thinks he needs.
He probably has felt that way for some time, and his coping strategy is pretend your not the one he wants and/or he is not bothered, hence the name calling. Inwardly, he is jealous when you go out because he percieves that you are gving your care and attention to others and not him.
The thing to remember is that he does not nescessarily want the SAME KIND of attention you give to your cmpany when you are out, so you need to find out what he wants and needs, and then decide if it's something you can deal with or provide.
It might take a bit of coaxing and/or it might be something sensitive. It could be anything, the need to talk about sport or the desire to be dominated. lol. It really could be anything. It may be that he wants you to call it a day so he doesn't want to.
Rest assured that if he did not want you, he would be gone, or having an affair, so relish the fact that he wants you enough to stay with you (hurt the one you love most!) Make an effort to understand what he needs. If all else fails, get him really worked up in bed. Wait until he is nearly there, and hold off, and ask him then. He'll tell you anything! If that doesn't work, you need to have a discussion about ending the relationship...it's not good for either of you.