It's happened since our very first time hanging out together when we went out to a club after dinner. He immediately zeroed in on a girl across the bar and began smiling and lingering eye contact. It happens all the time and I'm starting to feel bad. He claims he's not a player and is really into me/wants a relationship. He acts really sweet and always wants to know what's on my mind. Then, as soon as we go out someplace, he flirts heavily with every girl who crosses our path. One friend told me he prob. has low self-esteem and needs to be constantly validated. However, should that be a 'red flag'? I really need other guys' advice. Thanks in advance for any input guys. He seems to say one thing, then act completely different when other girls are around...is this just normal/something I shouldn't be worried about, as long as he's *with me*, as some have suggested? ~So confused(!)
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Most players won't admit to the girl that they're players; it'd kill their game. Player or not, though, him making eyes and flirting with other girls while you two are out is entirely unacceptable. I'll admit that I also have low self-esteem and crave validation, but the thought of flirting with other girls when I'm out with a girl has never even crossed my mind, so I don't buy that as an excuse.
I think your instinct is worth following; it definitely shows up as a red flag to me.0