I cook, clean, do laundry, have a banging body that I work out 6 times a week, beautiful face, smart, great career. I always get asked why I am single and the truth is men don't appreciate what I do for them. Got me sitting here in my good Victoria secret lingerie with TV remote and dinner in hand when you come home from work, and I don't even get a thank you. I get it all the time, guys chasing me down asking for my number and being surprised that I can be beautiful and single or have issues with dating. Its because I am super nice to my men and they don't appreciate me at all. Why is this? Are all white men like this? I never dated a black guy, maybe I need to start? I am so tired of not being appreciated.
NEVERMIND THIS WAS NOT WHAT I WAS ASKING...I WAS TALKING ABOUT IN A RELATIONSHIP
SAYING WHILE IN A INTERRACIAL RELATIONSHIP WITH A BLACK WOMAN , WHY WHITE MEN DON'T APPRECIATE THAT WOMAN...NOT REASONS WHY YOU DON'T DATE BLACK WOMEN. OBVIOUSLY THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH TEH QUESTION, BECAUSE OBVIOUSLY YOU WOULD NEVER BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A BLACK WOMEN TO MISTREAT HER.
I may not have all the same qualities you do, but I'm still a good person at heart -- I'm kind, caring, loving, very helpful towards others,and I have a great head on my shoulders (working towards my degree in school for a great job, not a trouble maker, etc. etc.).. but I'm not white (I'm indian on the outside and white on the inside lol) and all the guys I like seem to not be attracted to me because they have a "preference" for white girls.. it sucks, but that's how the majority of guys are.. we can't help it and we can't change it (I, personally, don't want to even try).
They get their hearts broken by the wrong type of girls over and over and over again, yet they don't learn their lesson.. they still go back to those girls because of their flat out race and/or looks (it's all about the attraction).. without giving girls like you and I even a second thought. We could wear a sign that says "Hey You! Look! Great Girl over here.. just PERFECT for you!" and they would still ignore it lol.
It sucks.. but this is how guys are programmed until they mature (which a lot never do).. they go after girls who could be the best looking first place prize on their arm but then end up with a last place reject stamped on their hearts because she dumps him for someone else (sorry a little cheesy, yes I know lol). We just gotta suck it up and pray that there is a good guy out there for ladies like us .. a guy who will be the one we want to be with and who will treat us with respect and love. Until we find that person.. all I can say is pray for the good and ignore the bad. Good luck.
I would appreciate a black girl, I mean I don't need a service maide but to many guys the things you stated would likely be a plus. Maybe you're just finding the wrong ones who arn't really looking for a relationship, who knows it might not even be down to race they just might not be ready for anything serious. Some whtie guys just arn't attracted to black girls whether they been brainwashed not to like them (since many guys would admit they like gabrielle union, rihanna, beyonce etc but say they don't like them in general) but many still are and black girls are very attractive
I hear what you're saying and I know it's a serious issue. I've certainly dated my share of lazy disrespectful white women. For me specifically, it's just a matter of attraction. There have been very few black women I was romantically attracted to in the past. Typically I'm attracted to white women and some latinas. It's just one of those preference things. Believe me if I could flip some switch to change that I would, but it is what it is. I'm sure you have your own preferences. But yes rationally I see how I'd be a lot better off with a woman like you.
Yes girl you need to start dating black men. You sound gorgeous and intelligent, you need to find a good black man to give all that love to. Hell, even a mixed dude or a Latino. But a WHITE GUY? Stop it. It doesn't matter how beautiful, intelligent, sweet, etc. you are you are still a black woman and that fact makes you less than to most white men.
Up until the mid-20th century white men could rape and destroy black women and girls without impunity. A black man could be killed for being accused of looking at a white woman but white men could rape black girls with no punishment. It may be 2011 but those ideologies didn't just disappear into thin air. Think about all the racist people in the civil rights era, they had children and grandchildren and some of them are the white guys you're trying to date.
also no offense but you kinda come off like you try too hard. you're doing all that hoping for validation but what do you get in return? if your not happy then don't keep doing it. make sure you are happy and pleased at all times. you're your #1 priority. is that selfish? no because most men feel the same way. as you can see you have been unappreciated and taken for granted in spite of all you did for the guys. that should be proof enough that you shouldn't give your all to a man without getting the same back in return. that goes for all races of men