I've had many people in my life tell me I'm beautiful. My mothers friends, teachers, strangers, friends, etc. But I just don't believe it anymore. About a year and a half ago some guy (from online not in real life) started saying how since my face isn't symmetrical I'm only average and my breasts will be the key to finding a man. Ever since then I can't help but think... What If that's true? Every time I'm actually feeling good about myself and think I look decent his words ring in the back of my head and I feel hopeless. Also I posted pictures about 2 years ago on Yahoo answers asking what they thought of me (just for "fun") and a lot of the people said I was average.
Lately I've been going over what people have said to me and their actions and I just can't help but wonder if these people are lying. I have guys talk to me online all the time but again I don't know if its my breasts or my whole self face included. I have extremely low self esteem now probably the lowest it's ever been and when someone tells me I'm attractive it makes me feel horrible and I end up fighting them on it or just not believing it.
I guess my question is should I believe everyone who tells me I'm pretty and beautiful in real life who have actually seen me or the people on the Internet who say I'm average ( the symmetrical guy and Yahoo answers people) or the guys who talk to me online who might just be after my womanly parts. In real life I've had many many guys ask me out but when I talked to a few guys (online) they say that the really pretty girls never get asked out... So then I think here we go plain Jane once again.
My mom tells me I'm beautiful and I say of course you think that you're my mom but she says no, everyone she knows says I am and even if she wasn't my mother would think that. But then... I think what If she's just telling me this to boost my ego? I'm at a loss, I just want to be pretty :/.
I know this is kind of a silly question... sorry. I just am at a loss and would greatly appreciate your answers. Thanks!
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1. Different people find different things attractive. There will always be people who think you're attractive and people who think you aren't. It also depends on what reference a person is using when judging attractiveness.. a girl could be the prettiest girl in her school, but if the people judging her attractiveness are using, say, celebrities as their reference of attractiveness, she might be average compared to most celebrities.
2. Average doesn't mean ugly. Most people are average. There's nothing wrong with being average.
3. Pictures aren't the best way to judge someone's attractiveness. A picture is just a moment in time and often people pose for pictures---they miss a lot of other aspects that can make a person attractive---the way they carry themselves, their personality, etc. and they also miss the fluidity of your movements (i.e. if someone took a picture of you laughing, it might catch you at an awkward moment; but someone who is looking at you in person would see the whole moment and be thinking, "Wow, she has a beautiful smile.").1
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