do you like one over the other? would you rather be one or the other?
do you think one has it easier with men than the other?
- Cute girlsVote A
- Sexy girlsVote B
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Im into girls and I'm attracted to both, more or less.
Personally, I've always been the sexy girl. Its inevitable because of my face and my body shape. People close to me would call me cute because of my mannerisms at times, but most people just call me sexy or pretty, beautiful, things like that. I rarely ever get "cute" from most people.
I honestly think cute girls have it easier. My friends who are really cute but not very sexy don't have as much negative attention or issues with men as I do. I literally feel sexually harrassed sometimes when I'm walking down the street or on the subway. I've had guys follow me when I try to ignore them and make degrading comments about my body. Guys give me way too much attention when I don't really want it that much. And being the "sex bomb" or whatever means getting attention from the bad weeds too. I've had men lie about their relationship status so they could take a shot at sleeping with me. Married men are included in that. I actually unknowingly had an affair with a husband and father of three and I felt horrible about it afterward. I just get lots of negative attention and my looks are the main reason. I don't always want to be bothered either. I'm flirty sometimes, yes, but when I'm trying to get to my destination or something I like to be left alone, especially if you don't have anything significant to say anyway. These men just think I need to hear every thought they have about my body. Even just the simplest "youre a beautiful woman" is very uncomfortable and inappropriate in certain settings (my employer said that to me, for example.)
Oh, and I almost never get the guys who genuinely want a long term relationship. Apparently my look sends the wrong message. (And by "my look" I mean the way my body fits in clothes. ) I'm not always looking for a relationship, but I'm not closed off to it either. I've been in a serious relationship before, don't get me wrong, but I get tons of guys just wanting to f*** me. That's okay sometimes, but not ALL the time. It gets exhausting and I'm just left jaded by it all.
I even like some of the nerdy guys I see around campus (I find some of them attractive, I mean) but they definitely don't like me. They barely pay attention to me. le sigh.
sorry for the rant lol but this is something I relate to a lot :/0